Man Accused Of Raping Mother While Holding Toddler

[tracy]

Actually tracy, upon reflection, and like you, never having been in this type of situation, it simply never occurred to me that the rapist might have held her toddler in the car, nor that he may have taken him to register for the room. Under those circumstances I simply don't know what I would have done. One can't imagine what sort of person would so endanger and threaten a child such as this man might have done/did... a cowardly act. I'm sorry that I offended you by thoughtlessness.

Don't worry, you didn't offend me. I've thought the same thoughts you have, I bet. I've never had a man be violent with me, so it's been hard for me to understand why women in those situations do what they do sometimes. I can't say there aren't still times when I want to yell at a woman to stop allowing herself to be treated badly. I see women who are clearly in abusive relationships fairly regularly having children with those men. It frustrates me to no end and I have those same thoughts ("I would NEVER allow that to happen to me or my child!"). I just have to remind myself that I might have a lot of resources she doesn't, I don't know everything about her individual situation and my judging her doesn't help the situation.