Is it morally correct for men to leave parenting on womans shoulders?
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Yes,I would be much happier,thank you. I may be nuts but al least I have some, unlike your man who has his in your purse.
Wow that was unneccessary. I am sure LRG will be glad to know what you think of him. :rolls eyes:
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I agree with you. In fact, I know several men who are the sole parents after a divorce. But in a couple, I think the man should be involved with his kids.
In an ideal world a child would be raised by both parents, but family dynamics have changed and evolved into something quite the opposite of a two parent family. I didn't grow up with the traditional family dynamics because my mother held a full time job (not a common occurance in those days) and she went to school in the evenings to become a nurse and my grandda became mine and my siblings (6) primary care giver. GrandDa and Dad did most of the cooking (thank god my mother is a dreadful cook) Dad was more involved in the development and teaching of us because my mother was and is a career women. I grew up with a strong male and female role model. I think a child needs strong role models beit female or male, as a female I can't image not having had a father to guide and teach me. Some men are better parents than females, my youngest sister sucks at parenting but her husband is awesome as a father and a parent. Males today are better fathers than their predecesors-excluding my Dad of course. I will never understand how a male would opt out of wanting to parent a child, can there ever be a more wonderous gift than beinge DAD? I don't think so.
Wow... let me introduce you to common sense, Nikki. Common sense, Nikki, Nikki, common sense.
I am female, and what I said is my firm opinion. Bringing up children and shaping them into individuals is something that women do much better than men. And some things do not depend on the century it is now, and this is one of this things. I should say that I see absolutely nothing sexist in my statement. I am not saying that women are stupid because they can raise children well. In fact, it is a very important talent, and is something to be proud of.
And a word of advice to you, Nikki - you should think first before putting labels, such as "sexist". (It is, indeed, a good idea to think first before saying anything at all, but that would be too hard at first). It is a very bad thing to go through life, relying on cliches and fashionable phrases to shape your opinion for you.
Every kid needs a mother and every kid needs a father. Sometimes having both is impossible but the onus is still on both their shoulders - if alive, kicking and breathing - to support their child. You can measure a community by the respect given to raising its children. And that is exactly why society is so ticked off with certain of our community cultural groups.
It is nice, isn't it, China, to discover that we still can agree on some topics? :smile:
There was a time when the bulk of society believed politics, law enforcement, science, were all things men did much better than women. Women faught for thier right to prove such beliefs wrong, and they succeeded, and they proved such beliefs wrong.
Likewise, I believe men will eventually prove you wrong, as it becomes more ideologically acceptable and encouraged for fathers to be more sensitive, understanding, and emotionally involved, and as stay-at-home Dads become more common and less stigmatized. Men will prove equally competent to raise children, just as women proved for so many other things in the past. It is inevitable that men will begin to play larger roles in the shaping of children into healthy balanced individuals!
Wouldn't that depend on whether the dad was useless at it or not. Or worse, whether he was a danger to the kids?
I only spun this thread off the other because the emotions were running high.....take the first post as semi sarcastic. I have very different ideas than most women. I think if I had a child its my responcability to raise that child because the ultimate decision was mine and mine alone to have those children. Ultimately I raised them alone.
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I like chipping in. Kids are neat toys. I even do what I can for other people's kids.
Well then your rare and mature. I think that men that have an education are more disposed to take on the responcibility of parent.
It's not neccesary for a man to be a parent. I am a good example of a well-adjusted child brought up solely by the mother. Having said that it makes a it a LOT easier if the man can take his share.
I intend to do my bit
I intend to do my bit