b) this is not the thread to discuss this in
e)if you'd like to fight this out privately Im up for that but lets not turn this forum into the grapevine with our petty nastiness.
I personally don't see the harm to have an off topic post from time to time as long as it doesn't go too far, well I do that too in threads I started or others too anyway.
But yeah, if you two are going to talk or even argue about this further, it's better to keep it private between you 2, especially seems there is some personal info that obviously triedit wouldn't or even shouldn't disclose since an incoming legal battle is involved.
triedit said:
a) this doesnt concern you
Hmm this sentence reminds me what I just did that I usually didn't do at least not when I was in Asia.
I was telling my colleagues my short travel plan to France since some weeks before my departure date and a colleague annoyed me by first asked the same question again as why France, doh(!); second, by being rude as to dare throw my stress ball from my desk to me who was checking my small suitcase I put in the office when he was asking!
So I just said firmly,"It's none of your business!"
The funny thing is he was the one who got offended(!) and didn't talk to me for about 2 weeks.
Well, I don't reckon I was the wronged here, plus it's actually nice not to have to hear him telling his bad jokes to me :lol: So it was a peaceful 2 weeks.
But in Japan, people are so polite as it has the culture where you have the mindset you shouldn't trouble people and be polite no matter what. So yeah in Japan, I wouldn't say anything like that even though it's true it's nobody's business.
I think I changed after noticing that well some people don't even have the common sense to figure out what good manners are so recently I react in the same way how the other person acts to others.