| View Poll Results: When Did You Decide You Were Straight | |||
| Before Age 13 |    | 4 | 22.22% |
| Ages 13-18 |    | 0 | 0% |
| After Age 18 |    | 0 | 0% |
| In never "decided". I was born this way. |    | 14 | 77.78% |
| Voters: 18. You may not vote on this poll | |||
Steven Hawking's Tutor
Posts: 4,995 
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
November 30th, 2006, 09:41 PM
I'm not sure when I "decided" I liked women best. I also cannot remember when I "decided" that having sex with another man was the most repulsive thing ever.
So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.
I'm not sure when I "decided" I liked women best. I also cannot remember when I "decided" that having sex with another man was the most repulsive thing ever.
So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.
The Padre
Posts: 4,558
Location: Ontario
Location: Ontario
November 30th, 2006, 09:42 PM
You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.
Quoting Toro
I'm not sure when I "decided" I liked women best. I also cannot remember when I "decided" that having sex with another man was the most repulsive thing ever.
So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.
So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.
You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.
Steven Hawking's Tutor
Posts: 4,995
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
November 30th, 2006, 09:43 PM
I thought it was repulsive from the get-go.
Quoting sanctus
I never "decided" that I didn't like men.
You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.
I thought it was repulsive from the get-go.
Super Genius
Posts: 1,133
Location: Montreal
Location: Montreal
November 30th, 2006, 09:45 PM
I am sexually aroused by woman but I never took such a decision. Did I ever decide that I like eating when I'm hungry? Did I ever decide that I like music?... No, of course...
My brother is gay. He did not decide to be gay. He decided to ACCEPT that he is gay.
I am sexually aroused by woman but I never took such a decision. Did I ever decide that I like eating when I'm hungry? Did I ever decide that I like music?... No, of course...
My brother is gay. He did not decide to be gay. He decided to ACCEPT that he is gay.
Steven Hawking's Tutor
Posts: 4,995
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
Location: Florida, Hurricane Central
November 30th, 2006, 10:16 PM
Good for you.
Get all the big decisions in life out of the way as early as you can, I say.
Quoting Tonington
So you decided in kindergarten, eh?
So S-Lone would be a good person to ask about how nurturing plays the part. If it were in fact a function of nurture only, should S-lone not also be gay?
I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.
I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.
Good for you.
Get all the big decisions in life out of the way as early as you can, I say.
Knows No Bounds
Posts: 3,399
Videos: 2
Location: 50° 30' N, 104° 38' W
Videos: 2
Location: 50° 30' N, 104° 38' W
November 30th, 2006, 10:52 PM
I have no memory of ever making such a choice. I clearly remember seething with lust as a hormone-addled adolescent (not that I ever got to do anything about it) and the target was females. It never occurred to me that there was a choice to make. I am thoroughly heterosexual, and despite being married for almost 30 years to the hottest babe in the history of civilization, I can still cast an appreciative eye over the contours of other attractive women. And that's okay; when I stop doing that it means I've stopped admiring my wife too, so I must be dead.
I have no memory of ever making such a choice. I clearly remember seething with lust as a hormone-addled adolescent (not that I ever got to do anything about it) and the target was females. It never occurred to me that there was a choice to make. I am thoroughly heterosexual, and despite being married for almost 30 years to the hottest babe in the history of civilization, I can still cast an appreciative eye over the contours of other attractive women. And that's okay; when I stop doing that it means I've stopped admiring my wife too, so I must be dead.
Super Genius
Posts: 1,133
Location: Montreal
Location: Montreal
November 30th, 2006, 11:32 PM
Quoting Tonington
The fact that my brother is gay and that i'm not does indeed make me think that one is born gay. But I can't know that for sure. I am 2 years older then him, and we both had the same education.
So S-Lone would be a good person to ask about how nurturing plays the part. If it were in fact a function of nurture only, should S-lone not also be gay?
I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.
I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.
I had Dorothy
Posts: 1,054
Location: not in Kansas anymore
Location: not in Kansas anymore
November 30th, 2006, 11:47 PM
Quoting Dexter Sinister
Your wife is standing behind you,isn't she? Back to topic. I don't give a flying f**k what you do with a consenting adult. But, being gay is not normal.It is not wrong,but it is not normal,as defined by society and myself..Accept what you are and live with it . I,do not find large breasted woman such as Pamela Anderson attractive,I prefer petite dark-haired woman. That is not normal,I don't give a f**k. Live within your own skin and be happy.
I have no memory of ever making such a choice. I clearly remember seething with lust as a hormone-addled adolescent (not that I ever got to do anything about it) and the target was females. It never occurred to me that there was a choice to make. I am thoroughly heterosexual, and despite being married for almost 30 years to the hottest babe in the history of civilization, I can still cast an appreciative eye over the contours of other attractive women. And that's okay; when I stop doing that it means I've stopped admiring my wife too, so I must be dead.
Genius
Posts: 929
December 1st, 2006, 01:19 AM
Quoting sanctus
Who decides what is natural and what is not natural? If attraction to someone of the opposite sex is in your genes (and not many would argue that it isn't, I was attracted to women as far back as I can remember, which is about pre-school) then attraction to someone of the same sex is also in the genes. And if it is environment that determines sexual orientation, how exactly does one CHOOSE their environment?
You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.
Bright Spark
Posts: 495
Location: Oakville, Ontario
Location: Oakville, Ontario
December 1st, 2006, 02:35 AM
This is what I believe. I believe that people are born Bi and that as they get older they decide what they want to be by choice or subconciously.
Me I've never liked girls only guys, growing up and even now I despise girls and would never be with one or have one as a friend (i'm a girl).
This is what I believe. I believe that people are born Bi and that as they get older they decide what they want to be by choice or subconciously.
Me I've never liked girls only guys, growing up and even now I despise girls and would never be with one or have one as a friend (i'm a girl).
Time Out
Posts: 4,276
Videos: 1
Location: Richmond, Virginia
Videos: 1
Location: Richmond, Virginia
December 1st, 2006, 09:22 AM
The Catholic church can kiss my very cute derrière!! Oh wait.......they prefer boys!!!
Who has the right to say whats normal or unmoral? NOONE! I consciously look at every humanbeing as perfection. Goddess gave us all some part of perfection. Ive sat with guys watching woman walking in a club and feel the hormones raise (being nice here) And it will totally blow them away that I'll go up to the same girl and compliment her on her eyes or her smile or her jewlery. Whether shes thin or fat, tall or short theres a spot about her thats perfect in every way. Im not gay I AM an observer, I AM a connoisseur of life. And if men wouldnt be so afraid of noticing the perfection of their maleness in others without being homophobes then the world would be a great deal brighter.
Quoting TenPenny
The Catholic Church, of course.
The Catholic church can kiss my very cute derrière!! Oh wait.......they prefer boys!!!
Who has the right to say whats normal or unmoral? NOONE! I consciously look at every humanbeing as perfection. Goddess gave us all some part of perfection. Ive sat with guys watching woman walking in a club and feel the hormones raise (being nice here) And it will totally blow them away that I'll go up to the same girl and compliment her on her eyes or her smile or her jewlery. Whether shes thin or fat, tall or short theres a spot about her thats perfect in every way. Im not gay I AM an observer, I AM a connoisseur of life. And if men wouldnt be so afraid of noticing the perfection of their maleness in others without being homophobes then the world would be a great deal brighter.
