When Did You Choose to be Straight?

[Toro]

I'm not sure when I "decided" I liked women best. I also cannot remember when I "decided" that having sex with another man was the most repulsive thing ever.

So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.

 

[sanctus]

I'm not sure when I "decided" I liked women best. I also cannot remember when I "decided" that having sex with another man was the most repulsive thing ever.

So, please share your experiences with me and help me recall when I made this decision.

You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.

 

[Toro]

You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.

I never "decided" that I didn't like men.

I thought it was repulsive from the get-go.

 

[s_lone]

I am sexually aroused by woman but I never took such a decision. Did I ever decide that I like eating when I'm hungry? Did I ever decide that I like music?... No, of course...

My brother is gay. He did not decide to be gay. He decided to ACCEPT that he is gay.

 

[Tonington]

So S-Lone would be a good person to ask about how nurturing plays the part. If it were in fact a function of nurture only, should S-lone not also be gay?

I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.

 

[Toro]

So S-Lone would be a good person to ask about how nurturing plays the part. If it were in fact a function of nurture only, should S-lone not also be gay?

I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.

So you decided in kindergarten, eh?

Good for you.

Get all the big decisions in life out of the way as early as you can, I say.

 

[Tonington]

I didn't mean to imply I decided though, that's just when I started noticing them more, and a little more curious shall we say.

 

[Dexter Sinister]

I have no memory of ever making such a choice. I clearly remember seething with lust as a hormone-addled adolescent (not that I ever got to do anything about it) and the target was females. It never occurred to me that there was a choice to make. I am thoroughly heterosexual, and despite being married for almost 30 years to the hottest babe in the history of civilization, I can still cast an appreciative eye over the contours of other attractive women. And that's okay; when I stop doing that it means I've stopped admiring my wife too, so I must be dead.

 

[Toro]

I didn't mean to imply I decided though, that's just when I started noticing them more, and a little more curious shall we say.

I should have included

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[s_lone]

So S-Lone would be a good person to ask about how nurturing plays the part. If it were in fact a function of nurture only, should S-lone not also be gay?

I personally have had an attraction to girls since kindergarten.

The fact that my brother is gay and that i'm not does indeed make me think that one is born gay. But I can't know that for sure. I am 2 years older then him, and we both had the same education.

 

[wallyj]

I have no memory of ever making such a choice. I clearly remember seething with lust as a hormone-addled adolescent (not that I ever got to do anything about it) and the target was females. It never occurred to me that there was a choice to make. I am thoroughly heterosexual, and despite being married for almost 30 years to the hottest babe in the history of civilization, I can still cast an appreciative eye over the contours of other attractive women. And that's okay; when I stop doing that it means I've stopped admiring my wife too, so I must be dead.

Your wife is standing behind you,isn't she? Back to topic. I don't give a flying f**k what you do with a consenting adult. But, being gay is not normal.It is not wrong,but it is not normal,as defined by society and myself..Accept what you are and live with it . I,do not find large breasted woman such as Pamela Anderson attractive,I prefer petite dark-haired woman. That is not normal,I don't give a f**k. Live within your own skin and be happy.

 

[gc]

You don't have to choose what is natural. It is, however, when one chooses to act in an un-natural fashion that choices are made based on the environment you were raised in.

Who decides what is natural and what is not natural? If attraction to someone of the opposite sex is in your genes (and not many would argue that it isn't, I was attracted to women as far back as I can remember, which is about pre-school) then attraction to someone of the same sex is also in the genes. And if it is environment that determines sexual orientation, how exactly does one CHOOSE their environment?

 

[Riyko]

This is what I believe. I believe that people are born Bi and that as they get older they decide what they want to be by choice or subconciously.

Me I've never liked girls only guys, growing up and even now I despise girls and would never be with one or have one as a friend (i'm a girl).

 

[TenPenny]

Who decides what is natural and what is not natural?

The Catholic Church, of course.

 

[selfactivated]

The Catholic Church, of course.

The Catholic church can kiss my very cute derrière!! Oh wait.......they prefer boys!!!

Who has the right to say whats normal or unmoral? NOONE! I consciously look at every humanbeing as perfection. Goddess gave us all some part of perfection. Ive sat with guys watching woman walking in a club and feel the hormones raise (being nice here) And it will totally blow them away that I'll go up to the same girl and compliment her on her eyes or her smile or her jewlery. Whether shes thin or fat, tall or short theres a spot about her thats perfect in every way. Im not gay I AM an observer, I AM a connoisseur of life. And if men wouldnt be so afraid of noticing the perfection of their maleness in others without being homophobes then the world would be a great deal brighter.

 

[tracy]

Homosexuality is clearly natural because it is found in nature.

Personally, I think the notion that we choose our sexuality is laughable.

 

[L Gilbert]

I didn't choose or decide. It's more that I figured it out.

 

[I think not]

I haven't decided yet. :wave:

 

[Sassylassie]

Well as a child I thought boys were icky and gross, they were mean because they'd pull my hair and call me four eyes. They'd chase the lasses at lunch and be a pain in the arse, but at some point I stopped running and decided I kinda like these pesky pain in the arses. Subject to change on any give day thou, just kidding.

 

[selfactivated]

I haven't decided yet. :wave:

Id offer to help but everytime I try to be helpful around here I get into trouble :angel12: