#1Feb 28th, 2010
Do you love me ?
#3
Re: Do you love me ?
Feb 28th, 2010
China - love takes many forms - why ask strangers when only those who know you and accept you in real life can give an honest answer.
Here I believed you to be happily married, enjoying your newfound life and marriage in a new nation - your posts have been upbeat and positive and always
having time to query and question life as it is for many of us.
I am sorry you are having such a bad time, but you are a man of patience are you not? I would think you might have more positive resources to query than a public forum. If you need a friend I would be happy to supply my e-mail address for
an exchange of support with you if we could find a way to do this without giving it out on the internet.
I apologize too for the crude response you received from the initial responder to your post. Calm down please and use your own teaching and resources to find your way out of this.....the answer as always lies within us.... but I offer myself
as a sounding board if you think I might be of help. Curio
Here I believed you to be happily married, enjoying your newfound life and marriage in a new nation - your posts have been upbeat and positive and always
having time to query and question life as it is for many of us.
I am sorry you are having such a bad time, but you are a man of patience are you not? I would think you might have more positive resources to query than a public forum. If you need a friend I would be happy to supply my e-mail address for
an exchange of support with you if we could find a way to do this without giving it out on the internet.
I apologize too for the crude response you received from the initial responder to your post. Calm down please and use your own teaching and resources to find your way out of this.....the answer as always lies within us.... but I offer myself
as a sounding board if you think I might be of help. Curio
#4
Re: Do you love me ?
Feb 28th, 2010
Welcome to the jungle....
The best revenge is to get on with your life without her and be happy
The best revenge is to get on with your life without her and be happy
#6
Re: Do you love me ?
Feb 28th, 2010
How many are the hearts burned in the fire of rejection on an alter of love? But you must have known that the way is solitary. Now the warnings of the sages will ring in your ears. You can accept the lesson or you can reject it. When my test came I was pinned under a great weight I thought I could never survive, but I did. I hope you will do no less. Love is merciless, there are two predominant ways to approach it, narrow (on the few) or wide (on the many) one way or the other the universe will extract your love. Do not sink into thoughts of revenge and hate, these are horrid caustic things that will fan the flames that burn. Of course we love you, are we animals?
#8
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Feb 28th, 2010
China, I'm sorry you're hurting.
Last edited by Ron in Regina; Feb 28th, 2010 at 02:06 PM..
#9
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Feb 28th, 2010
Emotional security is a sacrifice to love. The pain will die down in time. You have my compassion, China.
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#10
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Feb 28th, 2010
... if you don't know for sure, why not err on the side of caution on something like this?
Marriage breakdown can be one of the most traumatic events a person can go through - sometimes as difficult as a death in the family. You have a depth of compassion most people would be surprised at ger...I'm inviting you to dig a little deeper for it.
Marriage breakdown can be one of the most traumatic events a person can go through - sometimes as difficult as a death in the family. You have a depth of compassion most people would be surprised at ger...I'm inviting you to dig a little deeper for it.
Last edited by Ron in Regina; Feb 28th, 2010 at 02:07 PM..
#11
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Feb 28th, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by Zan
I know Zan, been there done that. There is also 2 sides to a breakup. My brother and sister in law are going through one right now.... if you don't know for sure, why not err on the side of caution on something like this?
Marriage breakdown can be one of the most traumatic events a person can go through - sometimes as difficult as a death in the family. You have a depth of compassion most people would be surprised at ger...I'm inviting you to dig a little deeper for it.
#12
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Mar 1st, 2010
Thanks to all above for your selfless instructions .I realized now that I was lead by the woman ,did things for her because she wanted them and knowing that i would do them.My eyes have open and "I see The Light " Wow !
Today I,m not crying ; I'm free .
Curio , I still have your Email -I love you .
Today I,m not crying ; I'm free .
Curio , I still have your Email -I love you .
Last edited by china; Mar 1st, 2010 at 02:35 AM..
#13
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Mar 1st, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by china
I'm not so sure you are asking us if we love you. Not a question we would commonly ask of strangers. If you are asking if we care about you as a fellow human being - of course we do. If you are asking that we care if you are hurting, again, the answer if yes. Hi I am China ,I have bin hurt tremendously by my Chinese wife ; I am crying when I am writing this letter .I will go back home to Canada ...do you love me.
Did you move to Australia because you felt your marriage was breaking down? Maybe your wife hates living outside her country. Maybe she hoped the marriage would get better with the move. Maybe it's just over and time for both of you to move on.
If coming home to Canada is what you feel is best, then that is what you should do. Do you have family here to come back to? I hope you do.
It sounds like Curio is going to be happy to private message you with an email address to help you through this. It is especially good to have someone do that. It's always good to have a friend at a distance that you can share your troubles with.
Dark Beaver also gave you some very good advice. Don't let bitterness eat you up. Move on and create a new life for yourself. Allow happiness back into your life.
Good luck.
VI
#14
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Mar 1st, 2010
Curiosity
You either love all or you don't love at all.
Love is choice less .
a stranger who does not love knows not.
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My dear Curiosity ....China - love takes many forms - why ask strangers when only those who know you and accept you in real life can give an honest answer.
You either love all or you don't love at all.
Love is choice less .
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a stranger who loves , knows.....why ask strangers when only those who know you and accept you
a stranger who does not love knows not.
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#16
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Mar 1st, 2010
China - my e-mail has changed from the one you had - I will PM you here with an update.
I am so sorry life has turned a corner for you - but believe me (and you know this), sometimes we experience the most cruel things in life because it is time
to change something to better ourselves.
Right now you need to know that loving just one person is impossible, and you have enough love in you to experience great happiness, not just at the feet of
one other person but being shared by many others.
People care - even on a forum of strangers - because we have all been there - hurt and crying and wondering what we will do next.
You have reached out and lean on others until you can make some good decisions
for yourself and your personal future of new happiness.
Big hugs from Curio - look forward to your e-mail. curio
I am so sorry life has turned a corner for you - but believe me (and you know this), sometimes we experience the most cruel things in life because it is time
to change something to better ourselves.
Right now you need to know that loving just one person is impossible, and you have enough love in you to experience great happiness, not just at the feet of
one other person but being shared by many others.
People care - even on a forum of strangers - because we have all been there - hurt and crying and wondering what we will do next.
You have reached out and lean on others until you can make some good decisions
for yourself and your personal future of new happiness.
Big hugs from Curio - look forward to your e-mail. curio
#17
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Mar 2nd, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by Johnnny
no china i do not love you
i dont know you
i'm sorry to hear about your wife. i'm wondering if she just wanted a green card?
#18
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Mar 2nd, 2010
I can"t ever describe the origin. The origin is nameless; the origin is absolutely quiet, it is not spinning around making noise. Creation is something that is most holy, that is the most sacred thing in life, and if I have made a mess of my life, I'll change it. Change it today, not tomorrow. If I'm uncertain,I will find out why and be certain. If my thinking is not straight,I'll think straight, logically .Because until all that is prepared, all that is settled, I will not be able to enter into this world, into the world of creation .
#19
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Mar 2nd, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by china
China, I wish you good luck and good fortune.. I can"t ever describe the origin. The origin is nameless; the origin is absolutely quiet, it is not spinning around making noise. Creation is something that is most holy, that is the most sacred thing in life, and if I have made a mess of my life, I'll change it. Change it today, not tomorrow. If I'm uncertain,I will find out why and be certain. If my thinking is not straight,I'll think straight, logically .Because until all that is prepared, all that is settled, I will not be able to enter into this world, into the world of creation .
Believe it or not I have had to restart my life 3 times now and have just been thru a major life changing event myself.. However this is not new to me so I am used to these events and take them in stride.. It may sound strange to hear but when one has come near death three times it is easy to accept life is a daily blessing..
I am curious as to why you stated in your OP that you were coming back to Canada.. Must you return or is it just for emotional reasons ?
Business usually does not end because a wife has walked away..
Just curious..
Again, good luck..
Last edited by Francis2004; Mar 2nd, 2010 at 04:27 PM..Reason: Typo correction
#20
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Mar 2nd, 2010
Do you love me, do you wanna be my friend. I think this is how love goes, check yes or no
#21
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Mar 2nd, 2010
I am deeply sorry to hear of your troubles china. We've had our differences here, and I often don't understand you, but this one's pretty clear. You were feeling betrayed and wounded, and I can't imagine you deserving that. But alas, we all have our own private demons, and how we grapple with them will forever define who we are to ourselves in ways other people can never know. I've been there, betrayal, separation, and divorce, and some things about it will never be alright, but I'm alright, and so will you be. Some ugly stuff to get through in the meantime, and sometimes it looks endless, but it's not. You can do it, and you'll be a better man for having done it. I wish you well.
All of which is by way of answering your question in the OP, "do you love me," with this: I don't know you personally, but in the abstract, as a suffering fellow human, yes I do.
All of which is by way of answering your question in the OP, "do you love me," with this: I don't know you personally, but in the abstract, as a suffering fellow human, yes I do.
#22
Re: Do you love me ?
Mar 2nd, 2010
Dear China
I think you are incredibly brave to write about being hurt by one you love - it is one of the topics humans rarely can bring themselves to speak of until the pain is
over - but you are right up front with it - I hope each passing day it will ease and
your intellect will take you where you belong next in your life of learning.
The pain of hurt and betrayal will pass and the lessons learned will always be remembered.
You are a good man and there is a better place for you - which has not found you yet.....meanwhile stay physically healthy and build up your stamina for the next
round of what we call "lifetimes".... with care and concern....curio
I think you are incredibly brave to write about being hurt by one you love - it is one of the topics humans rarely can bring themselves to speak of until the pain is
over - but you are right up front with it - I hope each passing day it will ease and
your intellect will take you where you belong next in your life of learning.
The pain of hurt and betrayal will pass and the lessons learned will always be remembered.
You are a good man and there is a better place for you - which has not found you yet.....meanwhile stay physically healthy and build up your stamina for the next
round of what we call "lifetimes".... with care and concern....curio
#23
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Mar 2nd, 2010
Dexter Sinister
Thanks Dexter ,I also love you .
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__________________________I don't know you personally, but in the abstract, as a suffering fellow human, yes I do.
Thanks Dexter ,I also love you .
#24
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Mar 2nd, 2010
I don't know you, so I certainly don't love you.
Don't let it bring you down
It's only castles burning
Find someone who's turning
And you will come around
The last time my heart was broken, Dylan, Springsteen, CSN&Y, and voluminous quantities of alcohol helped me through it. To each his own, it might not work for you.
Don't let it bring you down
It's only castles burning
Find someone who's turning
And you will come around
The last time my heart was broken, Dylan, Springsteen, CSN&Y, and voluminous quantities of alcohol helped me through it. To each his own, it might not work for you.
#25
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Mar 2nd, 2010
me i dont tell people my prblems, as we speak my grandpa is dying i love him very much, but i preffer to wallow by myself
actually now that i think about it im about to cry....... but dont feel sorry for me i dont need no ones ****ing sympathy
actually now that i think about it im about to cry....... but dont feel sorry for me i dont need no ones ****ing sympathy
Last edited by Johnnny; Mar 2nd, 2010 at 07:51 PM..
#26
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Mar 3rd, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by Johnnny
I'm like you, I stay very quiet, and keep my problems tome i dont tell people my prblems, as we speak my grandpa is dying i love him very much, but i preffer to wallow by myself
actually now that i think about it im about to cry....... but dont feel sorry for me i dont need no ones ****ing sympathy
myself, I suppose that is a weakness, but it is who we
are, so be it.
be with your grandpa as much as you can, while you can,
I only had one grandparent while I was growing up, and
then he was gone, they are very special, cherish them.
take care.
#27
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Mar 3rd, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by china
So you come to this site after leaving my great country and spit at us from afar and want me to love youHi I am China ,I have bin hurt tremendously by my Chinese wife ; I am crying when I am writing this letter .I will go back home to Canada ...do you love me.
Their is only one reaction I had when I read of you predicament....see below.
#28
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Mar 3rd, 2010Quote:
Still love you Avro .So you come to this site after leaving my great country and spit at us from afar and want me to love you
Their is only one reaction I had when I read of you predicament....see below.
#29
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Mar 3rd, 2010
Curiosity
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Thanks for the words of wisdom Curio...Right now you need to know that loving just one person is impossible, and you have enough love in you to experience great happiness, not just at the feet of
one other person but being shared by many others.
#30
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Mar 3rd, 2010Quote: Originally Posted by china
A couple of questions: How long were you married and how did you meet her?Hi I am China ,I have bin hurt tremendously by my Chinese wife ; I am crying when I am writing this letter .I will go back home to Canada ...do you love me.
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