Exactly, and their children are much more likely to become teen parents themselves... It's truly sad. I wish all children were intended and born to people mature enough to raise them well. I see too many born to people who will have a heck of a time raising them either because they are so immature (not just in chronological age) or they don't have the resources they need. People seem to think that loving a child is all that matters, but they ignore the practicality of how they will actually raise that child. I've been working with babies for 6 years or so and the longer I do it, the more respect I have for parents who are able to do it well!
See, although I feel I'm getting around the age where I would feel comfortible having a child, I am in no rush to do so. I feel the longer I have to relfect on my own life and how I am, and the longer I have to try and get my life situated in a secure fashion (Financial and Relationship-wise) the better off, or the better chance I may have for my child to be raised as properly as possible, as I see it.
In other words, I am taking the time to deal with myself and the problems I may have in my life, so that I can better deal with my child's when the time comes.
One of the things that always seemed odd to me were the couples who wern't nessicarily planning on having a child but do, and their response is
"Well it just sorta happened, we wern't planning for it." ~ And for those people I just want to give them a good hard bitch-slap up side the head.
It doesn't just sorta happen..... if you are having sex, you best accept the fact that there is a chance that that one time you do or anytime you do have sex, could be the time you or your girlfriend/wife become pregnant, and if you are willing to have sex, you best be prepared to accept any consequences for those actions. If you planned on having sex, then you plan to create the chance of pregnancy, regardless if you use protection or not.
It can and will happen when it's going to happen, and if you don't want to have a baby with the person you're having sex with, or you don't think they'd be a good parent, then wtf are you sleeping with them in the first place, giving them the chance to be one and forever be a part of your life hence forth?
Some people are willing to sleep around with as many people as they can, or just for pleasure..... to them, so be it. But when you practice that lifestyle, you best educate yourself on the possible situations which may arise from that sort of lifestyle.... be that STD's, Pregnancy, or anything else under the sun.
You make the decision to have sex, and when you do, you can't bitch and cry to your parents that you're going to have a kid..... you have nobody else to blame but yourself for your own actions.
If you want to have sex galore and sleep around with everybody you see for pleasure, then fine.... reduce your chances of screwing up some kids life by getting your tubes tied or your testies severed and store your eggs or sperm somewhere where you can use them when you are ready. Don't let some child be brought into the world with your problems that you can't hack..... they're the one's who will suffer the most.
