May 4th, 2008, 11:19 AM
http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=29645
This is a neat little video discussing the disparities involved when couples engage in public displays of affections, versus gay couples doing so. For those of you who can't see the video, it's shot in the US. The gay men holding hands and kissing occasionally even prompted a phone call to 911, and the dispatching of a police officer to tell them to take it indoors. Women doing the same on the other hand prompted men to stand and stare, and even introduce themselves.
http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=29645
This is a neat little video discussing the disparities involved when couples engage in public displays of affections, versus gay couples doing so. For those of you who can't see the video, it's shot in the US. The gay men holding hands and kissing occasionally even prompted a phone call to 911, and the dispatching of a police officer to tell them to take it indoors. Women doing the same on the other hand prompted men to stand and stare, and even introduce themselves.
get dirty
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Location: vancouver island
Location: vancouver island
May 4th, 2008, 01:44 PM
What prudes some of you are!
Quoting #juan
Prelude to sex? come on....I kiss my man, hug him and flirt with him in public.....we save the heavy petting for behind doors as everyone should....in the video neither gay couple crossed the line of heavy petting....I think Love should be diplayed, it is better than the violence they show on TV!
Displays of affection? Some would call it a prelude to sex. Get a room or take it home, gay or straight.
What prudes some of you are!
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May 4th, 2008, 03:04 PM
The couple in the restaurant were putting on more of a show than the two gay men, I've shown that sort of affection before with my wife and it's perfectly acceptable but the two in the restaurant is not.
Amazing to me how ignorant people still are but not surprising.
The double standard of gay women is typical.
The woman at the end says it all.
"Love is good wherever you find it".
The couple in the restaurant were putting on more of a show than the two gay men, I've shown that sort of affection before with my wife and it's perfectly acceptable but the two in the restaurant is not.
Amazing to me how ignorant people still are but not surprising.
The double standard of gay women is typical.
The woman at the end says it all.
"Love is good wherever you find it".
Super Genius
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May 4th, 2008, 03:41 PM
It's refreshingly surprising, that most were fine with it.
Hetero or homo there should be limits to any "couples" behaviour in public. The restaurant couple were a little over the top for me. I think that was intrusive. If I'm there to relax and eat I don't want to watch a tongue exchange. And I would be forced to do so simply because I would be a paying customer there to receive a service. No escape.
In the park, people were merely passing by and thus were not a captive audience.
So time and place would definitely affect my attitude not the sex of the couple.
It's refreshingly surprising, that most were fine with it.
Hetero or homo there should be limits to any "couples" behaviour in public. The restaurant couple were a little over the top for me. I think that was intrusive. If I'm there to relax and eat I don't want to watch a tongue exchange. And I would be forced to do so simply because I would be a paying customer there to receive a service. No escape.
In the park, people were merely passing by and thus were not a captive audience.
So time and place would definitely affect my attitude not the sex of the couple.
May 4th, 2008, 04:28 PM
Ah, a very interesting point Sal. I felt too that the hetero couple were way worse, and the gay couples were being pretty mellow and didn't deserve the attention they were getting.
And for any guy considering acting like a moron as those who approached the lesbians did... no, that's not any less discriminatory. If you wouldn't approach a couple making out and essentially ask to get to know them based on some hint of their sex life, then don't do it to lesbians either. They're not there for your amusement of to fulfill your fantasies.
Ah, a very interesting point Sal. I felt too that the hetero couple were way worse, and the gay couples were being pretty mellow and didn't deserve the attention they were getting.
And for any guy considering acting like a moron as those who approached the lesbians did... no, that's not any less discriminatory. If you wouldn't approach a couple making out and essentially ask to get to know them based on some hint of their sex life, then don't do it to lesbians either. They're not there for your amusement of to fulfill your fantasies.
Super Genius
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May 4th, 2008, 04:38 PM
If one displays such public behaviour, is it a problem if they are fulfilling my fantasies? And if it does is it really all that rude to approach said couple and press or push for more outlandish behaviour?
Because once you begin to think about it........it's public...... already shared..... does it not then welcome any and all reaction if they are within reason? What are the limits?
Quoting karrie
Okay I have a question sparked by your last sentence.
And for any guy considering acting like a moron as those who approached the lesbians did... no, that's not any less discriminatory. If you wouldn't approach a couple making out and essentially ask to get to know them based on some hint of their sex life, then don't do it to lesbians either. They're not there for your amusement of to fulfill your fantasies.
If one displays such public behaviour, is it a problem if they are fulfilling my fantasies? And if it does is it really all that rude to approach said couple and press or push for more outlandish behaviour?
Because once you begin to think about it........it's public...... already shared..... does it not then welcome any and all reaction if they are within reason? What are the limits?
May 4th, 2008, 04:43 PM
I don't know Sal. The couple in the restaurant, well, frankly, that extreme of behavior I would assume they're looking for an invitation of some sort. lol.
But the lesbian couple, their behavior was not something that I would even classify as 'sexual', so, pushing for something sexual out of it would seem harassment to me.
Quoting Sal
Okay I have a question sparked by your last sentence.
If one displays such public behaviour, is it a problem if they are fulfilling my fantasies? And if it does is it really all that rude to approach said couple and press or push for more outlandish behaviour?
Because once you begin to think about it........it's public...... already shared..... does it not then welcome any and all reaction if they are within reason? What are the limits?
If one displays such public behaviour, is it a problem if they are fulfilling my fantasies? And if it does is it really all that rude to approach said couple and press or push for more outlandish behaviour?
Because once you begin to think about it........it's public...... already shared..... does it not then welcome any and all reaction if they are within reason? What are the limits?
I don't know Sal. The couple in the restaurant, well, frankly, that extreme of behavior I would assume they're looking for an invitation of some sort. lol. But the lesbian couple, their behavior was not something that I would even classify as 'sexual', so, pushing for something sexual out of it would seem harassment to me.
Super Genius
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May 4th, 2008, 04:49 PM
Quoting karrie I don't know Sal. The couple in the restaurant, well, frankly, that extreme of behavior I would assume they're looking for an invitation of some sort. lol.
I would expect any restaurant in which I would be eating, to correct that type of behaviour or get me drunk for free.... I don't know Sal. The couple in the restaurant, well, frankly, that extreme of behavior I would assume they're looking for an invitation of some sort. lol.
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Okay, fair enough....good point.
But the lesbian couple, their behavior was not something that I would even classify as 'sexual', so, pushing for something sexual out of it would seem harassment to me.
Chief Mogrifier
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May 4th, 2008, 07:22 PM
Quoting dirtylinder
My wife and I will often kiss in public but we don't crawl all over each other exchanging tongues in public. As you say, save that for the bedroom. It's not prudish, it is common sense.
Prelude to sex? come on....I kiss my man, hug him and flirt with him in public.....we save the heavy petting for behind doors as everyone should....in the video neither gay couple crossed the line of heavy petting....I think Love should be diplayed, it is better than the violence they show on TV!
What prudes some of you are!
What prudes some of you are!
Super Genius
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Location: Alberta, Canada
May 4th, 2008, 07:31 PM
and the only ones "crawling all over each other" was the hetro couple in the restaurant. Yet they were the ones that were recieved the best...... unlike the gay couple on the bench.... who ever called the cops needs an eye-rectomy.
and the only ones "crawling all over each other" was the hetro couple in the restaurant. Yet they were the ones that were recieved the best...... unlike the gay couple on the bench.... who ever called the cops needs an eye-rectomy.
May 4th, 2008, 07:33 PM
Quoting #juan
re-watch it juan. The two men were sitting around visiting and reading. No tongues. A few pecks here and there, an arm wrapped around, comfy. Nothing 'bedroomy' about most of their time on that bench. Same with much of the women's. It was only the hetero couple who took it to the extreme of being tongue locked.
My wife and I will often kiss in public but we don't crawl all over each other exchanging tongues in public. As you say, save that for the bedroom. It's not prudish, it is common sense.
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May 4th, 2008, 11:32 PM
Karrie
Is your concern with demonstrations of affection in public that that behavior might influence the same weak-minded people who have been preyed upon by mortgage companies? Is the issue that you're uncomfortable with this behavior and feel there's a "right" and "wrong" to it?
I suppose I don't understand why it's an issue...?
Who's mind puts the "bedroom-foreplay-sexuality-display" conotation on these people's behaviors? Is it the loss of appetite you regret or is it perhaps that displays of affection immediately bring the thoughts and possibly repulsion at the thought of sexual intercourse or sexual contact? Are you conditioned to draw one standard for this kind of behavior but another when people are happy to pay money to watch people brutalize each other?
Karrie
Is your concern with demonstrations of affection in public that that behavior might influence the same weak-minded people who have been preyed upon by mortgage companies? Is the issue that you're uncomfortable with this behavior and feel there's a "right" and "wrong" to it?
I suppose I don't understand why it's an issue...?
Who's mind puts the "bedroom-foreplay-sexuality-display" conotation on these people's behaviors? Is it the loss of appetite you regret or is it perhaps that displays of affection immediately bring the thoughts and possibly repulsion at the thought of sexual intercourse or sexual contact? Are you conditioned to draw one standard for this kind of behavior but another when people are happy to pay money to watch people brutalize each other?
Super Genius
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May 5th, 2008, 02:00 AM
I think that public displays of affection of any kind are wrong. And I don't think that people do it because they love each other so much. Wanting to show affection in public has got nothing to do with affection as such, it's got other reasons. Flaunting such behavior is certain to attract the kind of attention you don't want, be you a gay, lesbian, or a heterosexual couple. Some people will react in a ribald way, some might feel envy, causing them to be rude. Frankly, if you do it, and if you encounter this kind of reaction, it's because you were asking for it, and you've got no one to blame other than yourself.
I think that public displays of affection of any kind are wrong. And I don't think that people do it because they love each other so much. Wanting to show affection in public has got nothing to do with affection as such, it's got other reasons. Flaunting such behavior is certain to attract the kind of attention you don't want, be you a gay, lesbian, or a heterosexual couple. Some people will react in a ribald way, some might feel envy, causing them to be rude. Frankly, if you do it, and if you encounter this kind of reaction, it's because you were asking for it, and you've got no one to blame other than yourself.
