But what was the root of the abuse? Often abuse is a reaction to past abuse. Again, not justifying, but, more stating the truth. Is the person doing the abusing ALSO a victim? Should that be taken in to account. And, could the abuse issues be improved through counselling and help, instead of through just tossing someone in jail...is jail really the best solution?
I understand, its just a conversation and Im agree that the laws are lacks. I may be overstating my position but I know what those children will go through in the future, its not easy. To me abusers are murders. Maybe when laws come up to be rectified the ones who make them will see that.
Abusers are murderes, of the soul. My cousin was sexually and mentally abused by her father. None of us knew when we were growing up, and frankly this was back in the days when such things would not have been discussed outside of the family(I am a bit older then some of you--heh heh heh)
The point is, when my cousin got older and moved out of the house, and started sharing with some of us what my uncle had done to her, it horrifed me.
But for my cousin, she never was able to become a full person. She was afraid of everything and was unable to form a healthy bond with a man.
Maybe if she had been younger and in this time it would've been different. Things are out in the open now and there are lots of support groups.
Sorry to ramble, but the important thing is how her soul and spirit was murdered.
I don't blame you at all, and I'm really sorry to hear. Ahhh, good ol' war...what a way to mess up a person. And, then, it has trickle down effects...and, sadly, you got the brunt of it by the sounds of things. It is unfortunate that he didn't seek help. It is unfortunate that he wasn't, in some ways, forced to get help. I think the US army tends to let down vets...it doesn't give enough support on how to deal with life after war. That's a side of war that most countries don't want to acknowledge. And, you are right...you wanted a family...you wanted love...you wanted to not be abused. Unfortunatly, that isn't what happened. I'm sorry. I'd say you were let down all around. You were abused, and noone helped.
Sexual, physical, and mental abuse is like murder.
When a person breaks a person down, its like murder.
This is where my belief comes in. I take that pain and I share my experience. Im not shy about sharing my past. I try to help others in the same situation. Like Marys cousin Im a bit of a recluse but In my 112 years on the net Im quit proud that Ive helped others that felt alone in their abuse.
I still think tougher laws are needed but yes counciling and healing is utmost for any victom AND Perp.
I think that humans make mistakes. I think that some people will learn from those mistakes. Others will not, and will end up spending much of their lives institutionalized. I think the whole system is very complicated, and there are no black and white answers on how to completely prevent crime or reoffending. But, overall, I think that the system we have in place is an all around decent system.