Don't slink away
, no that's not what I meant. Am I sometimes annoyed at work here? Sure. There are annoying things at most jobs, this just happens to be the thing I see as most difficult about my job here. Like I said, I've been pretty lucky with the crazies. Some of my coworkers haven't and it's the lack of a response from management that I find upsetting. I've heard patient's families use racial slurs, profanity and even threaten violence without any consequence other than "Oh, we'll get you another nurse you'll like better". I've actually been the "another nurse" more than once.
So far, I've never had a family lose it with me or request another nurse. If I had, something tells me my resignation letter would have been in my manager's mailbox by morning! I don't have any trouble leaving jobs I don't like
Most of my families have been mostly appropriate. There was actually one night where I was surprised at how protective a parent was about me. He was visiting his baby with his wife when another baby's mother started going off on her nurse. She eventually calmed down and left, then the dad said "I was just waiting for her to say something to you, cause I'd take her out". He was a really scary looking man (ex-gang member, been shot more than once, and BIG) but a total sweetie. It became a big joke around the unit: "Don't mess with Tracy, cause she'll get that baby's dad to beat you up!".
I do remember one particularly crazy mother when I worked in Toronto. She followed one nurse off the unit and threatened her. After that she was only allowed in the unit if hospital security could spare someone to supervise her. That's the important difference to me. You'll have occasional rude people everywhere, but how do you deal with them? Our patient population is actually very similar to our population in Toronto. We get both extremes of the socioeconomic scale. 42 year old rich folks having their first baby through invitro fertilization, or 17 year old girls having their 3rd naturally of course. A lot of people are surprised at which group acts out the most.
There are some great things about working in the US that Canada just can't compete with and on another thread I pointed them out (training opportunities, educational opportunities, job opportunities, scheduling, etc). I don't feel guilty about leaving Canada to work here and won't go back in the near future unless some things change.