Re: Can someone install monitoring software on my mobile phone?
No worries, but something else crossed my mind yesterday......
You may also encounter the situation where he openly confesses and spills the beans, gives you some blubbering excuse and makes claims along the lines of learning his lesson and promising never to do something like that again.
This is a type of tactic/action of insecurity or personal kink that some guys can't just simply turn off, nor is this something he's never done before. You yourself said he knows a lot about these type of programs. That would have been my first clue not to be around this guy, simply because that's something you don't really brag about as being a good thing, especially to someone you want to be in a relationship with.
Maybe he was just being honest about it..... it doesn't help to be honest about what you say, yet dishonest with your actions.
He might apologize and promise never to do it again because he learned his lesson and doesn't want to ruin the relationship you guys have together...... but he already ruined it and forgiving him will only further enable his negative traits. He would have just gotten away with bloody murder with you and after a short period of time, he'll try again, only by using a different program and making sure he covers his tracks better the next time around.
He'll still be spying and still won't trust you because it sounds to me like he's been doing this for a while now.... and he'll keep doing it to you or someone else until he receives consequences for his actions he can learn from..... which is ending up being alone and not being forgiven...... perhaps that might hit home to him that what he's doing is unacceptable and will end up ruining any other relationship he seeks..... and if it doesn't stop and never learns from his mistakes..... at the very least he's no longer your problem to deal with
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Oh, and I'd suggest that after you get your phone cleared of anything you don't want on it..... put on a locking password so nobody else can frig around with your phone while you're not nearby.
But it's difficult for me to do that successfully.
If you're referring to getting away from the guy, even if the guy was timid as a panda cub, ending any relationship is going to be difficult and it's never really easy.
If he's threatening or mentally/physically abusive, there's a real good and easy way of solving that problem, but you may not like it.
Get the police involved, tell them everything that is going on, if you have been abused then provide evidence to back up your claims..... tell them about your phone being spied on...... inform your family, your friends and anybody you can think of about this ass clown, what you went through and to not just keep away from him, but keep an eye on him.
If he tries to pull anything or just won't leave you alone, he'll soon learn that not only are the police following what he's doing, but so are all your friends & family..... and if anything does happen..... everybody is going to know who to look for first...... so it'd make a hell of a lot more sense for him to move on with his life and leave you the hell alone before things get worse for him.
But I'm just guessing based on available information as to what situation you are really dealing with....... in either case, no matter how difficult choices or actions may be in getting out of this situation, it's never impossible, there are always ways to get out of any situation, even if you have to resort to staying with parents, friends or other family for a while..... I'm sure they'd rather you stay with them then to risk staying with this clown.
Sometimes you have to start over again in life, from scratch..... I've ended up doing that..... um.... hmmm..... about 6 times now in my life.... my 7th time starting all over again will be in a couple more months when I move..... but each time around you grow a little older, and a little wiser..... and you learn how to avoid this type of crap in the future so that things go better next time around, even if just by a little bit.
