When I came to the U.S. I brought with me many preconceived images of what it would be like (mostly from movies)...my sister and her family are staunch liberals and perpetuated the conversation regarding minorities as victims of the systems....
In university the professors continued the threads of victims....
When I was interning I learned much about the systems - both state and local and found that rarely were the ideals of "doing it for yourself" taught - nor was education stressed to the kids.
The old Italian "Don" system which preceded welfare in this country - came from Europe and the minorities adopted it as their way to security - "buy me for my vote".... or "my allegience in your cause"... or whatever was being sold... Rainbow? That's a joke.
Until I literally ran into (while jogging) a wonderful black woman about eight years ago....who has become one of my most valued friends. She fought the system, her welfare-crazed parents with six kids (more money)....dad never at home... she also fought the fact she was a woman....and is now a city council member, with her own company and can afford to effect some major changes in where she feels the basic problem lies: In education of the young.
I have listened to her, learned from her, compared what she tells me with what is happening out there....read her recommended list of the new "explorers" for the black American people....and found she was right on with her information.
My greatest learning experiences have for me been people. It is what I hope to find in forums. Sometimes it works...sometimes it doesn't....
I know you know exactly what I mean. The cries of "racism" when discussing this kind of topic used to terrify me. Not any more.
We know and recognize those who are truly racist are those who keep the people from evolving into self-sufficient, self-motivated and independent people..... and so satisfied!