Quote: Originally Posted by hermite
I've been reading the posts here at CC and I just have to say that I have never seen a more inarticulate, narrow-minded bunch of idiots. You are always so right and so self-righteous yet you people could not debate your way out of a wet paper bag. Since you are blathering on your computers all the time I assume it is because you are not competent enough to function out in society.
And you're just as narrow minded as the rest of us by generalizing all of us with the same brush. That and you post/debate in here like everybody else, ie: on a computer, and had enough incentive to post your complaints about all of us like it really matters and what you say is true.... so what does that say about you?
Still with me? I hope so because this is an experiment. Actually I love pretty much all of you and I'm sorry if I got you wound up there. Did you feel yourself tensing up inside as you read that first paragraph?
Not really. If I let what others say in her affect me in real life, then there would truly be something wrong with me.
Did that tension abate as you read this now? Are you male or female?
No and Male.
According to a study recently released women’s blood pressure returns to normal more swiftly when they receive an apology after an insult, whereas men recover more slowly. I had this tried on me yesterday by a radio host. She got all snarky and I could feel my bp going up but as soon as she apologized, I could physically feel the change. And this just fascinates me because it doesn't work that way for men.
For me, it depends on the situation and what is said, by whom. If some random clown on a telephone called me up to trash me out, I'd either trash the crap back out of them for wasting my time and then hang up on their ear..... or just hang up without a word.
Here is one of many articles about this which is all over the interwebs right now.
www.medscape.com/viewarticle/720121 (external - login to view)
So I thought it would be interesting to try this here. It would have been nice to do it as a poll but that would have altered the effect, I think. I would like to know, as a man or woman, are you still a bit tense about me, or is it all ok now?
Same as before, which is no opinion, positive or negative.
The implications of this are quite important. From now on if I say something to a female that upsets them, I will quickly offer an apology. But if it's a guy, I'll just say, "Bite me."
For me, in real life or in here, I'll say what's on my mind as I'd expect others to do towards me, I'll say what I believe in, or what I feel needs to be said, and regardless if someone is offended or not, they can take it anyway they please, it matters not to me.
It's not per say that I like being a jerk and don't care about other people's feelings, but all my life, I dealt with people tossing their opinions and criticisms at me as if they were justified in doing so, or somehow felt it would help me in someway, so I just adopted this approach through the years, as for far too long, I rarely ever spoke up for myself or spoke up for what I felt was right and I got a lot of catching up to do
And for some reason, I feel sugar coating things just doesn't have the same impact as telling it straight.... even if I'm completely wrong or out of line.... someone eventually learns something in the process and that includes me as well.