Quote: Originally Posted by Walter
Kids need to know the truth and not be molly-coddled. False praise is very detrimental.
There's a difference between false praise and keeping your mouth ŝut.
Let's look at it this way:
One kid is gifted, or has dedicated parents who help him through his education. He does well in school, and his teachers are always praising his maths, science, language, and other abilities.
The other kid suffers from dyslexia and dysgraphia, his parents ignore his education, and he's essentially on his own. So, does the teacher praise him when he does write a legible sentence (I'm not talking about false praise in the sense of saying his writing is like that of a calligraphic master's when it clearly isn't but the legitimate praise for having written a readable sentence), or does he criticize the student for his messy handwriting?
If he criticizes the student, he's sending the message that nless you're perfect, you're better off giving up and not bothering anymore. If on the other hand he praises no perfection but improvement, then he's sending the message that as long as you are always improving you will keep earning his praise.
If a child can never win praise no matter how hard he tries, he will eventually give up. If, however, he knows that as long as he shows improvement he will earn his teacher's praise, he will keep improving in order to attract that praise.
This is the same everywhere. In karate too, the sensei will reward the student for successfully learning his white belt kata and give him a yellow belt. He does not criticize him for not performing at a black belt standard.