Quote: Originally Posted by Minority Observer84
I don't think it's something about me that's going to change . I find the whole idea of monogomy boring.
Well, I suppose there are women who are also rather adventurous. If you don't mind not getting the exclusivity meaning that say she can compare you to the other and that's probably done unconsciously and those potential problems that may occur with say a man with 2 or more wives, then you two are meant for each other since you want the same thing.
I'm from a Chinese-descent family and my great grandfather actually had two wives and everybody got along very well. The first wife got tired of the sex and she got tired of doing the house chores too, so she deliberately asked her husband to find a 2nd wife who did like cooking and these chores and was a very nice lady apparently, as the two wives actually ended up to be as close as sisters.
Plus a person gives up a lot of the freedoms they gained from adult hood to marriage . I have a friend every single time we go out his wife calls him at least 4-5 times my god ! he even check in with her whenever he's going to be late from work (seriously one time I was driving him home from work and I get a flat and he calls to tell her he's gona be late because of my flat ) Granted he does it to her whenever she's out and about but still it's infantile.
I agreed with Hermann, it's more of out of consideration. I even tell my flatmate if I weren't going to be home that night either cause I was clubbing the whole night or staying in a friend's place without planning it just so that the flatmate wouldn't be worried and call the police!
By the way having kids is extremely overrated . Why anyone would anyone want the responsibility , financial pressure and the general extra work attached to having offspring is beyond me .
Well, if you don't want to have children, there are also women who don't like the idea to bear a child either. My mum said having me to be born naturally was rather painful for her, so since then she demanded the drugs!
There are women who want to stay pretty let's say and wouldn't want the delivery to damage their figure or that they would have to dress rather casual to take care of the child(ren).
I personally think blood alone doesn't make a family. I wouldn't mind the idea of adopting a child who is already born to this world. I reckon the parent(s)' care, love and education would make the child to at least adopt some values the parent(s) has/have, instead of the blood. I had an extended family when I was young and still in school in Japan amongst my friends. We stayed together to overcome broken hearts, grief of losing a dad, depressions even one was trying to kill himself.
Well maybe you can call it the desire to leave a legacy or just more of a biological instinct to continue the human race or simply just to have a family besides the partner, but if you see there is no point in having any children, then it's your choice to have.
Actually one of these women I mentioned has no desire to have any children either cause she saw what the pressure is going to be put on the generation of these now children because this generation then would have to bear the pension for the elderly that would be so high by the time this generation can earn.
Last edited by SwitSof; Aug 14th, 2007 at 11:47 AM..Reason: typo