1 In 3 Boys Heavy Porn Users


marygaspe
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Study Shows Rural Children Access Porn More Often



Is your child watching to porn? You may be surprised.According to a new study by the University of Alberta, boys aged 13 and 14 living in rural areas, are the most likely of their age group to access pornography.The study found that parents need to be more aware of how to monitor their children's viewing habits.Students were surveyed anonymously about how and how often they accessed sexually explicit media content on digital or satellite television, video and DVD and the Internet. Ninety percent of males and 70 percent of females reported accessing sexually explicit media content at least once. More than one-third of the boys reported viewing pornographic DVDs or videos "too many times to count", compared to eight percent of the girls surveyed.A majority of the students, 74 percent, reported viewing pornography on the Internet. Forty-one percent saw it on video or DVD and 57 percent reported seeing it on a specialty TV channel. Nine percent of the teens reported they accessed pornography because someone over 18 had rented it; 6 percent had rented it themselves and 20 percent viewed it at a friend's house, according to a press release.The study also revealed different patterns of use between males and females, with boys doing the majority of deliberate viewing, and a significant minority planning social time around viewing porn with male friends.The survey results showed that girls reported more accidental or unwanted exposure online and tend to view porn in same-gender pairs or with mixed groups.Though being curious about sexually explicit media may seem a "natural" part of early adolescence, porn is a major presence in the lives of youth, the survey said. The media environment in Alberta homes makes access to porn easy for teens and viewing pornography at a young age can set children up for problems later on, said Sonya Thompson, a masters graduate student at the University of Alberta in Edmonton, Canada, and author of the study."We don't know how we are changing sexual behaviors, attitudes, values and beliefs by enabling this kind of exposure and not talking with kids about it in any meaningful way," Thompson said.Thompson, formerly a sex education teacher, said she is concerned about the health and social messages pornography sends. She said excessive early exposure to pornography may be harmful in terms of expectations going into relationships."What kinds of expectations will these young people have going into their first sexual relationships? It may be setting up a big disconnect between boys and girls and may be normalizing risky sex practices," Thompson said.Almost half of rural youths in the survey reported seeing pornographic videos or DVDs at least once, compared to one-third of the urban participants. Thompson is unsure why rural teens access porn more on video and DVD, but suggests that parents may think distance acts as a buffer."Maybe they have a false sense of thinking they are far away from unhealthy influences," she said. Rural boys also reported a lower incidence of parents talking with them about sexual media content. Urban girls were most likely to have had discussions with their parents. And while the majority of teens surveyed said their parents expressed concern about sexual content, that concern hasn't led to discussion or supervision, and few parents are using available technology to block sexual content, according to the study. "Families using media together is no longer the norm, so parents need to know what their kids have access to in their alone time," Thompson said.She also suggests that teachers also need to tackle the issue in sex education classes.Retailers, government and the media industry regulators also need to work with parents to ensure they are educated about limiting their children's access to sexually explicit material, have strategies to talk with their teens, and that laws around the sale of porn to minors are enforced, Thompson said.A total of 429 students aged 13 and 14 from 17 urban and rural schools across Alberta, Canada, were surveyed anonymously for the survey.
 
Curiosity
#2
Young boys are often curious at an early age about sex....

Porn is the latest outlet but through the ages - most young boys have found sex to be a fascinating pasttime - even with other boys or watching animals if they happen to grow up in rural areas....

I see healthy curiosity as a good sign ... I see "porn" going way too far and leaving nothing to a child's imagination....

It's going to be very soon we witness the result of what these young male adults have resolved in their sexuality after being exposed to deviant behavior at such an early age....

BUT (caveat here)... most young guys survive all kinds of things.... and go on to be healthy sexually active men whose oats were sewed by whatever means they had available.

The guarantee is a healthy home which discusses sexuality as one of nature's gifts not something to be whispered about as "dirty"... the perennial attraction for all young people.... secretive and wrong...that's a certain method of twisting the whole concept of sex.

And even more devastating is having an older person force sexuality upon them...without their consent or desire...
 
karrie
#3
I don't know if anyone else on here has ever heard of this being a problem, but a lot of my concern with boys and pornography stems from group use. I know a few men who, as boys, were lured into inappropriate situations with other boys their age or slightly older, through the promise of getting to look at pornography. So it seems to me that simply disallowing a young boy at that age from seeing anything isn't a good option either, because you risk him being overly willing to compromise himself to catch a glimpse of what a friend, let's say, has found on his computer. But then, how do you 'allow' him to look at anything along that vein? And how do you control what sorts of imges he's getting access to? I know I see nothing wrong with a young boy seeing pictures of naked women, but I don't want my son watching actual porn at that age. Is there really ever a right path to take with this issue?
 
hermanntrude
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Quote: Originally Posted by karrieView Post

I don't know if anyone else on here has ever heard of this being a problem, but a lot of my concern with boys and pornography stems from group use. I know a few men who, as boys, were lured into inappropriate situations with other boys their age or slightly older, through the promise of getting to look at pornography. So it seems to me that simply disallowing a young boy at that age from seeing anything isn't a good option either, because you risk him being overly willing to compromise himself to catch a glimpse of what a friend, let's say, has found on his computer. But then, how do you 'allow' him to look at anything along that vein? And how do you control what sorts of imges he's getting access to? I know I see nothing wrong with a young boy seeing pictures of naked women, but I don't want my son watching actual porn at that age. Is there really ever a right path to take with this issue?

i think your average young boy looks at porn because he's not sure what a ****** looks like and doesnt know where to find a clitoris

If he stumbles on something hardcore (as he obviously will) his usual response is EWWWW! and alt+F4 repeatedly. Teenagers don't usually find that kind of thing appealing. it's only adults with their perversions (usually caused by mishandling of sex education by their elders) that get interested in latex-covered **** sex with a goat and a woman at the same time.
 
mabudon
#5
"Users" LMFAO that's rich- I wonder how many also "use" cartoons and Jackass, and Adam Sandler films- not for sexual reasons of course, but the term "user" strikes me as funny....

I "Used" a LOT of big-hair, softcore "pornography" when I was younger and I turned out alright- being kind of nerdy (and kind of poor at a rich school) kept me pretty sexually underutilized, and personally I think that did more damage than any por ever could

I admit, I still look at it sometimes I guess, but an odd observation here (and it's hard to keep this REAL clean but I am trying) more of what I would consider "deviant" behaviour freaked me out and basically turned me off when I was younger, anything beyond "vanilla" was too freakish- I ony really became aware of EXACTLY what I liked and didn't like through actual experimentation, which seems to require a more mature mindset than most younger folks posess

I have no problem with most pornography- an important caveat is that I don't have kids, but I suspect that most folks who have problems with pornography itself are nowhere NEAR as open minded as I am. And really, I think the "parent problem" is mostly based on the extreme uncomfortable-ness of the subject matter
- I don't discuss sex with my mom, say, even tho we're both adults, just cos it doesn't seem right- and I could just imagine if I were a fairly conservative person, and having a say 13 year old- if I saw some of the porn that is out there nowadays on my kids computer, I would prolly faint and wish it wasn't happening, cos wrapping ones head around it would be difficult I'd imagine

EDIT- Hermanntrude, that's EXACTLY what I was driving at, excellent (and damn funny) post

I must say I'm down to a few images a day- in my youth, I could "use" a whole stack of old magazines all day long
 
karrie
#6
Quote: Originally Posted by hermanntrudeView Post

i think your average young boy looks at porn because he's not sure what a ****** looks like and doesnt know where to find a clitoris

If he stumbles on something hardcore (as he obviously will) his usual response is EWWWW! and alt+F4 repeatedly. Teenagers don't usually find that kind of thing appealing. it's only adults with their perversions (usually caused by mishandling of sex education by their elders) that get interested in latex-covered **** sex with a goat and a woman at the same time.

I agree for the most part. But, you do get a certain amount of 'oneupmanship' going on at that age. Again, it's mainly the influence of others on what my kid might be viewing that bothers me. I think as a general rule, a 'young boy' is smart, but 'young boys' are careless and hyper and just generally have poor judgement.
 
selfactivated
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I know this goes against my usual open mindedness but I believe that one of the reasons my son is dead is because he was exposed to this far to early in life. My ex found it as a right of passage. I raised holy hell over it and it ended up being a tug of war. I dont have any answers if I did mabe my son would be alive.
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westmanguy
#8
TV gives kids the spark and interst in sex, and they usually learn themselves about getting off and having dreams...

By 14 + porn on the web is just a way to get off, I think most boys learn about their sexuality at 10-12 and then porn is their material to ease their hormone urges..

porn on the web is nothing really different then Playboy mags. which have been around a long time.
You can access more, and quicker online though.

As most men know 11-15 your homones are raging and you don't start to mellow off that phase until 16ish.

Boy this is a crude discussion...

BTW the culprit for kids interested in sex early then compared 30 years ago is media.

TV still is the biggest set off in kids getting interested in that stuff.
 
hermanntrude
#9
Quote: Originally Posted by westmanguyView Post

TV gives kids the spark and interst in sex, and they usually learn themselves about getting off and having dreams...

By 14 + porn on the web is just a way to get off, I think most boys learn about their sexuality at 10-12 and then porn is their material to ease their hormone urges..

porn on the web is nothing really different then Playboy mags. which have been around a long time.
You can access more, and quicker online though.

As most men know 11-15 your homones are raging and you don't start to mellow off that phase until 16ish.

Boy this is a crude discussion...

BTW the culprit for kids interested in sex early then compared 30 years ago is media.

TV still is the biggest set off in kids getting interested in that stuff.

i'd say it's a lot different to playboy. In playboy you won't find depictions of gay sex, sex with old women, sex with dogs and horses, **** sex, gangbangs and the like. This is the side of internet porn i would like to protect my kids from.
 
westmanguy
#10
Yeah, but I think basically every bliddy person in the nation knows about this stuff at some point. So if you protect the kid now, he'll figure it out later.

As long as people are consenting I don't got a prob. with weird fetishes. Consent, and age of legality are key though.

**** sex, is a very big aspect in sexual activity these days though.. its not a strange fetish.. **** is mainstream.

Anyways, kids can't be protected from everything. A parent should be there to explain the facts and safties, and leave the rest to the kid. Sex is something you figure out yourself. Parents are there to explain the parts, safties, precautions, and morals on it.
 
L Gilbert
#11
lol
Back in my childhood it was National Geographics and a rare Playboy someone had scooped off their dad's collection.
My kids don't seem as interested in porn as my wife and I do. Wife asked them just outta curiosity. Both are in their 20s so we don't really mind whether they do or not, it's up to them. Shelley and I look at and discuss softcore porn now and then. Makes us hot. (Not going to go into details)
 
selfactivated
#12
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

lol
Back in my childhood it was National Geographics and a rare Playboy someone had scooped off their dad's collection.
My kids don't seem as interested in porn as my wife and I do. Wife asked them just outta curiosity. Both are in their 20s so we don't really mind whether they do or not, it's up to them. Shelley and I look at and discuss softcore porn now and then. Makes us hot. (Not going to go into details)


Thats all well and good as you are adults. BUT handing it to 16 year olds knowing their not well formed in their thought prossesses should be illegal. Its not harmless and can be leathal.
 
westmanguy
#13
No details! Aww... I admit as a religious person I have looke at porn countless upon countless times.

I am not addicted, but its a pleasure..
 
westmanguy
#14
well.. its all to easy for a kid to access porn. Unless parents downloaded some high security software that blocked porn out from web viewing.. besides that blocking all porn from the web with any software is near impossible.

Where there is a will there is a way for kids to look at porn.. unless you throw the computer out of the house, unto which they'll go to a friends house.
 
L Gilbert
#15
Quote: Originally Posted by selfactivatedView Post

Thats all well and good as you are adults. BUT handing it to 16 year olds knowing their not well formed in their thought prossesses should be illegal. Its not harmless and can be leathal.

I agree. I'm pretty sure my girls were well aware of biological processes and activities by the time they were 16, though. We caught the youngest one doing the experimental, discovery-type thing on the couch one time we came home. Didn't freak out, just calmly said, "one or both of you better have protection". She was 14 and the boy was 15; reminded me of me because that's the age my first g/f and I tried.
 
L Gilbert
#16
Quote: Originally Posted by westmanguyView Post

well.. its all to easy for a kid to access porn. Unless parents downloaded some high security software that blocked porn out from web viewing.. besides that blocking all porn from the web with any software is near impossible.

Where there is a will there is a way for kids to look at porn.. unless you throw the computer out of the house, unto which they'll go to a friends house.

Pretty much. I blocked out the really weird stuff but let mainstream hardcore and softcore through. I hates the idea of my kids being ignorant, inhibited, and puritanical about the issue. Shelley's the same way. We both had puritanical parents and had to struggle very hard to break the chains in order to feel free enough to enjoy the psychological aspects of making love.
 
westmanguy
#17
I agree things like bestiality, rape, and very strange acts kids shouldn't see.

I remember the first time I accidentally had a bestiality pic pop up on me a year ago.. that still sickens me to no end today.

Certain things need to be blocked. But let the kids surf and experience nudity and sex, don't huddle them into ignorants about sex..
 
selfactivated
#18
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

I agree. I'm pretty sure my girls were well aware of biological processes and activities by the time they were 16, though. We caught the youngest one doing the experimental, discovery-type thing on the couch one time we came home. Didn't freak out, just calmly said, "one or both of you better have protection". She was 14 and the boy was 15; reminded me of me because that's the age my first g/f and I tried.


Critter wasnt ready for any of it at 16. He was molested as a child and I didnt see any signs of his being mature enough for even soft porn. I wish I was more informed Maybe he'd be alive now. .....bad day.....i prolly should stay out of these threads.
 
westmanguy
#19
Is there some thread I missed about some tragedy, death or something to do with your son?
 
selfactivated
#20
Quote: Originally Posted by westmanguyView Post

Is there some thread I missed about some tragedy, death or something to do with your son?

Theres a link in my first post on this thread.
 
karrie
#21
Quote: Originally Posted by westmanguyView Post

TV gives kids the spark and interst in sex, and they usually learn themselves about getting off and having dreams...

By 14 + porn on the web is just a way to get off, I think most boys learn about their sexuality at 10-12 and then porn is their material to ease their hormone urges..

porn on the web is nothing really different then Playboy mags. which have been around a long time.
You can access more, and quicker online though.

As most men know 11-15 your homones are raging and you don't start to mellow off that phase until 16ish.

Boy this is a crude discussion...

BTW the culprit for kids interested in sex early then compared 30 years ago is media.

TV still is the biggest set off in kids getting interested in that stuff.

There's a huge difference between a still nude photo of a woman, and a live moving picture complete with penetration, and that's just adressing the mainstream stuff. If you're searching for that sort of thing, you won't only turn up mainstream stuff. You'll turn up all sorts of fetish stuff. Young boys shouldn't be looking at that. Young adults, fine. but not young boys.
 
Tonington
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I wonder if the 1/3 of boys who say too many times to count are being truthful, or perhaps to them saying that is better than giving an accurate figure. Also, at what point do we call it "heavy"?
 
L Gilbert
#23
Quote: Originally Posted by selfactivatedView Post

Critter wasnt ready for any of it at 16. He was molested as a child and I didnt see any signs of his being mature enough for even soft porn. I wish I was more informed Maybe he'd be alive now. .....bad day.....i prolly should stay out of these threads.

Sorry about it being a bad day for you, hun.
Um, yeah, having a very traumatic experience at a younger age could have devastating effects on later life, fersher.
 
karrie
#24
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

Pretty much. I blocked out the really weird stuff but let mainstream hardcore and softcore through. I hates the idea of my kids being ignorant, inhibited, and puritanical about the issue. Shelley's the same way. We both had puritanical parents and had to struggle very hard to break the chains in order to feel free enough to enjoy the psychological aspects of making love.

Well, that takes care of what your kids can see at your house. But how do you talk to your kids about not looking at this sort of stuff when friends are excitedly calling them to come see what they found on the net? I think individual people tend to regulate their sexual desires fairly well, and as Hermann pointed out, will stick to stuff that doesn't freak them out or make them uncomfortable. But, when they have an outside force pushing fetish stuff on them, it worries me. Yet, how can you ever make sure that doesn't happen?
 
karrie
#25
Quote: Originally Posted by ToningtonView Post

I wonder if the 1/3 of boys who say too many times to count are being truthful, or perhaps to them saying that is better than giving an accurate figure. Also, at what point do we call it "heavy"?

They do say that self report data is heavily flawed for a variety of reasons. I did a unit on it not too long ago for statistical analysis. One of the other things that struck me about it is the possibility that if the boys reporting it don't mentally tally it ahead of time, that's an easy answer.
 
L Gilbert
#26
Quote: Originally Posted by karrieView Post

Well, that takes care of what your kids can see at your house. But how do you talk to your kids about not looking at this sort of stuff when friends are excitedly calling them to come see what they found on the net? I think individual people tend to regulate their sexual desires fairly well, and as Hermann pointed out, will stick to stuff that doesn't freak them out or make them uncomfortable. But, when they have an outside force pushing fetish stuff on them, it worries me. Yet, how can you ever make sure that doesn't happen?

We told them flat out that they would probably encounter friends who want to talk them into or lead them to things that would be harmful. There were several discussions about it. I think the first discussion about their interaction with friends was about drugs. Maybe it was sex. But anyway, we probably fed them probably more info than was necessary about whatever traps they could find themselves in, but a couple of the main traits my wife and I built into this marriage was openness and trust. We told them all we could and trusted them to do whatever they knew or felt was right. It was reciprocated; they trust us and will tell us anything if we ask.
 
darkbeaver
#27
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

lol
Back in my childhood it was National Geographics and a rare Playboy someone had scooped off their dad's collection.
My kids don't seem as interested in porn as my wife and I do. Wife asked them just outta curiosity. Both are in their 20s so we don't really mind whether they do or not, it's up to them. Shelley and I look at and discuss softcore porn now and then. Makes us hot. (Not going to go into details)

Thankyou
 
L Gilbert
#28
For...... ???
 
karrie
#29
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

We told them flat out that they would probably encounter friends who want to talk them into or lead them to things that would be harmful. There were several discussions about it. I think the first discussion about their interaction with friends was about drugs. Maybe it was sex. But anyway, we probably fed them probably more info than was necessary about whatever traps they could find themselves in, but a couple of the main traits my wife and I built into this marriage was openness and trust. We told them all we could and trusted them to do whatever they knew or felt was right. It was reciprocated; they trust us and will tell us anything if we ask.

You went the right route IMO. When I was growing up, mom had many a frank discussion with us about sex. But, her knowledge was limited to what she could get in books at the local library, and the issues that she was aware of. She had no knowledge of some of the pitfalls that awaited us. I can't really say I blame her for that, she tried, she tried really hard. She was raised to ignore anything to do with any of the goings on south of the belt, unless it was marital, menstrual, or maternal. She fought really hard to not pass on that kind of attitude. But, certain things, like disease transmission, were just outside of her realm of knowledge. She put her daughters on birth control, and she told her son how to use condoms, but there were some high risk activities she never adressed. She talked about the importance of 'the m word' for a healthy psyche. She talked about the importance of an open and frank sex life as a corner stone for marriage. She gave me a lot. But, I just can't believe that I'm going to have to sit my kids down one day to explain to them why they shouldN'T watch gang bangs and donkey sex. *sigh*.
Last edited by karrie; Feb 26th, 2007 at 05:32 PM..Reason: really AWFUL spelling mistake
 
karrie
#30
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

For...... ???

I think it was for not going into details. lol. beav's such a prude.
 
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