Hugs
- Thread starter AmberEyes
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Australia I believe is where it started, though many people have been doing it in response all over the world. I know we had a hug campaign at UBC over in Vancouver...
Well, I'm not sure you like all of my posts, seeing as I've been a bit of a b*tch to you in the past. I disagree very strongly with some of the words your catholic friends say, and I tend to be a tad agressive at times. We all have our sides, and while I may be a vengeful little **** at times, I can also be very soft and caring, especially when the soft side of me is needed. I think tonight is one of those nights, and so I'm trying to keep my claws in and my fur soft.
Yanno what? Wouldnt it be really cool to go to the trainstation and great people! LOL
Hugs... yeah. Five years ago I met a friend of one of my sisters, a woman who was at the time in a deeply troubled state. We were at the family cabin at the lake, and the three of us sat up late into the night talking. She struck me as a fine and sensible person that life had handed a load of crap to recently. As I was taking my leave of them the next day, she put out her right hand to shake, and I took it, and she uttered the usual platitudes about "Nice to meet you..." I said, "You're not getting away with that," and pulled her towards me and gave her a long hug. After a second's hesitation she responded appropriately.
A hug is never the wrong thing to do. Even if the other person tries to pull away, for whatever reason, it's never a mistake to offer one. Ever.
And I'm pleased to report that she's now happily married to the man of her dreams, and she still hugs me whenever we meet.
A hug is never the wrong thing to do. Even if the other person tries to pull away, for whatever reason, it's never a mistake to offer one. Ever.
And I'm pleased to report that she's now happily married to the man of her dreams, and she still hugs me whenever we meet.
I must say that this is wonderful. Most men i know are very reserved about not only their emotions, but their external displays of affection to. Maybe it's an age thing with men of my age group? I know my husband is very much the stereotypical male in this regard. I cannot recall ever seeing him hug anybody willingly, not even our children. He's a good man, don't misunderstand what I'm saying, just that his emotional state is very "male", He's not alone though, so many men seem like that. I wonder what it is in the male world that is so difficult for many of them to express emotions and displays of affection?
I am the lucky one I guess ......
I grew up with hugs galore.... drama everywhere from diva sisters and even my brother who was a friendly big lug surviving among all the women.... my dad loved to hug too and my mother, while not as an aggressive a hugger as the others - didn't like to mess her hair perhaps, also hugged. My mother was the one who held when a person was crying or upset... not exactly a hug but a long term cuddle...it always felt good.
We rarely had fights in our family - I mean we had yelling contests and trying to one-up each other but never ended up with anger to close our days and our family's younger generation which seems to be my family's contribution in repopulating Canada are keeping the practice alive.... so I guess hugs are catching when handed down through familiar habits.
Not on topic but I was remembering when everyone was settling down for the night when all of us were still living together "dorm" style.... and someone would make a joke or crack a remark about something and we'd all start to laugh - which is also catching when you are tired and rummy at the end of a day.... we'd all end up in hysterical laughter over some stupid thing....until one parent would start yelling at us "to shut up"....
I know one thing.... I find it very difficult to dislike anyone I have had the opportunity to hug and who hugs back. It's one of those social interactions we should share in more so people will enjoy the fun
and feeling of comfort even with strangers that a big old hug can give.
Some people rarely experience hugs - it makes me think they are impoverished in what could be for them...such a comforting exercise.
I grew up with hugs galore.... drama everywhere from diva sisters and even my brother who was a friendly big lug surviving among all the women.... my dad loved to hug too and my mother, while not as an aggressive a hugger as the others - didn't like to mess her hair perhaps, also hugged. My mother was the one who held when a person was crying or upset... not exactly a hug but a long term cuddle...it always felt good.
We rarely had fights in our family - I mean we had yelling contests and trying to one-up each other but never ended up with anger to close our days and our family's younger generation which seems to be my family's contribution in repopulating Canada are keeping the practice alive.... so I guess hugs are catching when handed down through familiar habits.
Not on topic but I was remembering when everyone was settling down for the night when all of us were still living together "dorm" style.... and someone would make a joke or crack a remark about something and we'd all start to laugh - which is also catching when you are tired and rummy at the end of a day.... we'd all end up in hysterical laughter over some stupid thing....until one parent would start yelling at us "to shut up"....
I know one thing.... I find it very difficult to dislike anyone I have had the opportunity to hug and who hugs back. It's one of those social interactions we should share in more so people will enjoy the fun
and feeling of comfort even with strangers that a big old hug can give.
Some people rarely experience hugs - it makes me think they are impoverished in what could be for them...such a comforting exercise.
I completely agree. Hugs are one of those interactions I think that bind us together. It's such a carefree, simple way of showing affection and it can be done to anybody, including strangers. Just the other day my mum and I were in Tim Hortons, (I work there sadly), and right before she left I gave her a hug... well the woman next to me said, "Where's mine?" so we both turned around and hugged her and the person next to her, just because.
i was unaware of the power of hugs until i met my wife and her family. In her family the tighter you hug someone the more you mean it. First time i got a hug from my wife it nearly cracked a rib. I wasnt expecting it!