Not once have I claimed these people couldn't be good parents or neglected their children Kreskin, not once. My own parents couldn't have children naturally, so that isn't the issue in my mind at all. My parents are great parents. I would disagree that parents who struggle with infertility are necessarily the best though. I don't think that has anything to do with being a good parent or not. We had one family here that conceived thanks to fertility treatments and I wouldn't trust them to look after a pet, let alone a baby. Others I've seen have been amazing.
All I'm saying is that IVF isn't great all the time. Forget about parenthood for a second (and we could debate whether a 63 year old is really at a great stage in life to become a parent). A 63 year old isn't the best candidate for PREGNANCY. That isn't a moral judgement, it's just a biological reality. It really doesn't matter to the child why he/she's disabled for life (if it's because mom wanted a baby at the age of 50 or if it's because she was drinking). If you'd looked after a few sets of triplets/quads who had brain bleeds requiring shunts, heart defects requiring surgical ligation, ruined bowels requiring colostomies/ileostomies and terrible lungs requiring tracheostomies, I think you would understand what I'm trying to say. IVF can be great. It can be disastrous too. We had one premie in our unit for 6 months before she finally died. She was the family's third attempt at a healthy baby with IVF and they still don't have any living children.
The clinics you used may have placed certain limits, but there is no hard and fast rules and if a couple wants something, chances are they can find a place to provide it. Clinics have some limits, but obviously not all clinics. Most clinics wouldn't treat a 63 year old for infertility, but this woman obviously found one.