Letter from a Wife and Mother

[GreenGreta]

Your Wife
1234 Your Address
Your Town, Your Province
Your Postal Code
(This is your house)


Dear Sir;

Is it too much to ask that you please stop beating me? Will you please stop, in the name of "love", taking your knife, gun and fists, and destroying me? Is it necessary to use that much force on me when I am physically weaker than you? Am I such a huge threat to you that you must resort to this?

Do you have to, in front of our children, humiliate and degrade me, their mother? I don't want my sons to think women are servants, bitches and sluts. I don't want my daughters thinking that men will only hurt them. I don't want this vicious cycle to continue. Does it impress you that your sons will grow up to be abusers? Are you excited about the day your grandchildren come to you crying that their dad beats THEIR mother? Will you tell your grandchildren that their mother deserves it?

Does it please you to see your children huddled together, crying, and scared to death? Is your day a success that way?

Why, if you really think I am so bad, are you still with me? Why don't you leave instead of hurting me this way? Are you really incapable of living without me? Are you really so weak that you would rather be at my funeral than let me live my life? Are you really that small? Are you nothing without me?

What did I do that was so wrong? What did I do to you?


Yours truly,



Your Wife

 

[Jay]

Sorry, my wife didn't write that letter.....

 

[GreenGreta]

Most wives didn't.

Hopefully anyways.

 

[Jay]

So it's just propaganda....the man hating kind.

 

[peapod]

domestic violence is not propganda or man hating, its a fact and there is more than enough evidence supporting it. This is not a joke, especially when that violence has to be witnessed by childern.

 

[GreenGreta]

A 15 year old boy had to shoot his father on fathers day because he just watched him kill his mother. Is that propaganda?

 

[Jay]

No that's not; the above letter is.

 

[peapod]

No its not jay, but I agree that the letter is over the top, and theatrical. But that does not change the real existence of a serious issue. So lets not look at this as man bashing, it just so happens that most offenders are male. Right, big deal! why not try and understand why?

 

[Jay]

I do understand Pea....

By now I'm sure you understand that I'm not going to allow a letter like this to pass as anything other than what it is.

I support the theme...domestic violence is wrong, and it breeds violence. It must stop. It's like growing up and watching your parents drink all the time...odds are your going to do it too.

I don't support the letter though, and I don't think it is doing anything to support understanding.

My mother used to beat the crap out of me, should I pen a nasty little letter painting all Mothers the same way. No I shouldn't. That would be wrong also.

 

[no1important]

RE: Letter from a Wife an

My mother used to beat the crap out of me, should I pen a nasty little letter painting all Mothers the same way. No I shouldn't. That would be wrong also.

No, you should not.

But stats prove kids who are hit growing up have a better chance of being involved in domestic violence, ending up in jail etc. Violence solves nothing. Only makes things worse.

 

[Jay]

No, you should not.

But stats prove kids who are hit growing up have a better chance of being involved in domestic violence, ending up in jail etc. Violence solves nothing. Only makes things worse.

And that’s why I posted this…

I support the theme...domestic violence is wrong, and it breeds violence. It must stop. It's like growing up and watching your parents drink all the time...odds are your going to do it too.

 

[TenPenny]

If violence solves nothing, what do we do with abusive SPOUSES. And please note the use of "Spouse", not husband. Domestic abuse is a two way street.

 

[Jay]

There are laws in effect already to deal with this problem.

Education has a big part to play...seek counseling if your prone to hitting and verbal abuse!!

Admitting you have a problem is a big step.

We have shelters etc. There are ways to stop the cycle.


Disclaimer....I'm speaking from the common sense front, not from experience.

 

[Dexter Sinister]

... it just so happens that most offenders are male.

Nope. That's the propaganda. It's male violence that gets the publicity, but the fact is, it's a draw.

http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

 

[Jay]

Good to see you out Dex....


I was going to say it was feminist propaganda, but I didn't want to deal with the backlash...there was enough of it as it was, proving the point I suppose....

 

[Dexter Sinister]

Thanks Jay. I've been away for a while (fly-in fishing trip to the wilds of northern Saskatchewan; highly recommended therapy for whatever ails you), and when the weather's nice I like to be out in the yard, not hanging around messaging systems, but I do try to drop in here regularly.

That male violence thing is among the most enduring myths of contemporary popular culture, and I'm getting tired of it. Though it pains me to disagree with peapod, a fellow gardener and fisherman...

 

[Jay]

"(fly-in fishing trip to the wilds of northern Saskatchewan; highly recommended therapy for whatever ails you), "

Sound like a great time....what fish bites flies up there?

"Though it pains me to disagree with peapod, a fellow gardener and fisherman..."

I know, but I had to do it too....someone has to stand up for males….

 

[GreenGreta]

That male violence thing is among the most enduring myths of contemporary popular culture, and I'm getting tired of it. Though it pains me to disagree with peapod, a fellow gardener and fisherman...

A myth? Men beating women is hardly a myth. I do agree that women also beat men.

 

[annabattler]

RE: Letter from a Wife an

The reality is that there are NOT enough protections for women...there are not enough shelter beds,there are not enough long-term housing beds...there are not enough "prevention" programmes,so women don't find themselves tolerating abuse.
And let's not forget the terror of the children,who watch the abuse,or are targetted themselves.
Add to that the new "immigrants",who don't have the language or the skills to seek out help...decidedly a problem.

 

[Jay]

Right. Men tolerate abuse, because we can....were supported somehow....