Boy, 9, marries 62-year-old mother of five... again


spaminator
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Boy, 9, marries 62-year-old mother of five... again
QMI Agency
First posted: Friday, July 18, 2014 12:31 PM EDT | Updated: Friday, July 18, 2014 12:51 PM EDT
He'd be the ring boy at any other wedding, but earlier this week a nine-year-old South African boy walked down the aisle as the groom when he married a 62-year-old woman for the second time, according to local reports.
Saneie Masilela plans to marry someone his own age one day, but says he loves mother-of-five Helen Shabangu and wanted to go through the ritual to appease his family's ancestors, the U.K. Mirror reports.
A video uploaded to YouTube by U.K.-based Barcroft Media shows the bride and groom sharing a kiss after the ceremony, while Shabangu's 67-year-old husband Alfred looks on.
It was the second wedding for the woman and the schoolboy, this time in her village of Ximhungwe, making official the rite performed last year in his village.
The couple does not live together.
The Mirror quotes Masilela's mother, Patience, as saying: "After the wedding, everything went back to normal -- nothing changed."
Saneie Masilela, a nine-year-old South African boy, walked down the aisle as the groom when he married a 62-year-old woman for the second time. (Screenshot from YouTube)

Second Wedding For 9-year-old Boy amp His 61-year-old Wife - YouTube


Boy, 9, marries 62-year-old mother of five... again | Weird | News | Toronto Sun (external - login to view)
 
QuebecCanadian
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Quote: Originally Posted by spaminatorView Post

Saneie Masilela plans to marry someone his own age one day, but says he loves mother-of-five Helen Shabangu and wanted to go through the ritual to appease his family's ancestors, the U.K. Mirror reports

This is what I'd like to hear more about.
 
Sal
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ya'd think she could have at least removed the old chipped nail polish for her wedding day

hope all of her dead ancestors are appeased.

tradition

so important to follow tradition, even when it's stupid....it's tradition

gotta follow
 
SLM
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Quote: Originally Posted by SalView Post

ya'd think she could have at least removed the old chipped nail polish for her wedding day

hope all of her dead ancestors are appeased.

tradition

so important to follow tradition, even when it's stupid....it's tradition

gotta follow

Actually I kind of take the opposite view on this one. Don't get me wrong, I find it weird, but then a lot of unfamiliar traditions can be defined in that way to those who are unfamiliar with them.

While I'm sure many generations ago this would have been an actual marriage, I see what they are doing as more symbolic. And that, to my point of view, is a far better way to tie the past (tradition) to the present, modern world. At least I think it's far better than some customs where a pair of nine years old are actually wed to one another or something along those lines.

It is strange though.
 
Sal
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Quote: Originally Posted by SLMView Post

Actually I kind of take the opposite view on this one. Don't get me wrong, I find it weird, but then a lot of unfamiliar traditions can be defined in that way to those who are unfamiliar with them.

While I'm sure many generations ago this would have been an actual marriage, I see what they are doing as more symbolic. And that, to my point of view, is a far better way to tie the past (tradition) to the present, modern world. At least I think it's far better than some customs where a pair of nine years old are actually wed to one another or something along those lines.

It is strange though.

good outlook

I on the other hand am not a traditionalist thus see little to no value...but to each his own

I am betting you are right on the marriage thing, years ago it would have been real

her current husband looked really pleased with the whole thing didn't he?

he looks like a bit of a non traditionalist to me, lol
 
SLM
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Quote: Originally Posted by SalView Post

good outlook

I on the other hand am not a traditionalist thus see little to no value...but to each his own

I am betting you are right on the marriage thing, years ago it would have been real

her current husband looked really pleased with the whole thing didn't he?

he looks like a bit of a non traditionalist to me, lol

I'm not a huge traditionalist either. Aside from some small family traditions, there really isn't anything I've ever been involved in that's traditional. But I know, and perhaps this is coming from my 'heinz 57, Canadian mutt' background, there have been times when I've been a tad envious of a more 'community' traditional experience. Not even sure that envious is the right word necessarily, but I've seen friends and acquaintances who are part of a larger cultural community and how even simple traditions shared amongst those in their community bring them a real joy. There is an inter-connectedness to it. So I'm not anti-tradition either.

Frankly it's still bizarre to me to have a nine year old even symbolically marry a 67 year old. But if it satisfies some kind of tie to their cultural past and provided it's only symbolic, then whatever floats their boat I guess.
 
Sal
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Quote: Originally Posted by SLMView Post

I'm not a huge traditionalist either. Aside from some small family traditions, there really isn't anything I've ever been involved in that's traditional.

guess that includes skipping the summer bbq

Quote:

But I know, and perhaps this is coming from my 'heinz 57, Canadian mutt' background, there have been times when I've been a tad envious of a more 'community' traditional experience. Not even sure that envious is the right word necessarily, but I've seen friends and acquaintances who are part of a larger cultural community and how even simple traditions shared amongst those in their community bring them a real joy. There is an inter-connectedness to it. So I'm not anti-tradition either.

yeah I do actually hear you there, Romanian, Polish, Italian, Lithuanian... they all hate it when they are young getting dragged out but in later years they love it and drag their kids too, course they hate half of the people there, but that's part of the love

Quote:

Frankly it's still bizarre to me to have a nine year old even symbolically marry a 67 year old. But if it satisfies some kind of tie to their cultural past and provided it's only symbolic, then whatever floats their boat I guess.

agreed, see the little suit, it looked pretty cool. He looked like he had not a clue what was happening or why. lol.... do I get a toy at the end?
 
QuebecCanadian
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Quote: Originally Posted by SLMView Post

Actually I kind of take the opposite view on this one. Don't get me wrong, I find it weird, but then a lot of unfamiliar traditions can be defined in that way to those who are unfamiliar with them.

While I'm sure many generations ago this would have been an actual marriage, I see what they are doing as more symbolic. And that, to my point of view, is a far better way to tie the past (tradition) to the present, modern world. At least I think it's far better than some customs where a pair of nine years old are actually wed to one another or something along those lines.

It is strange though.

Yeah, I agree....but the kiss is over the top, imo
 
SLM
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Quote: Originally Posted by QuebecCanadianView Post

Yeah, I agree....but the kiss is over the top, imo

Yeah there is an 'ick' factor there.
 
petros
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Which one is Blackloaf?
 
SLM
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Quote: Originally Posted by SalView Post

guess that includes skipping the summer bbq

Actually I pretty much enjoy my family, I know who the best joke tellers are anyway and just make a beeline for them, lol. But it's the drama they seem to have with each other that I can do without, and there always seems to be something. Sigh.

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yeah I do actually hear you there, Romanian, Polish, Italian, Lithuanian... they all hate it when they are young getting dragged out but in later years they love it and drag their kids too, course they hate half of the people there, but that's part of the love

There was, as a child I can recall, a sense of missing being a part of something larger than just the 'nuclear family'. It was strange and unknown to me but also oddly appealing in it's own way. Sometimes I still get that feeling.
 
Walter
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Hopefully, this won't happen to the new bride (or groom).
Yemen: 8-year-old girl dies on her wedding night - Aden Tribune (external - login to view)
 
Sal
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Quote: Originally Posted by WalterView Post

Hopefully, this won't happen to the new bride (or groom).
Yemen: 8-year-old girl dies on her wedding night - Aden Tribune (external - login to view)

condoned pedophilia

The girl, who is named Rowan, suffered deep wounds and rupture of the uterus and genital led to her death on her wedding night.
 
gerryh
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Quote: Originally Posted by SalView Post

agreed, see the little suit, it looked pretty cool. He looked like he had not a clue what was happening or why. lol.... do I get a toy at the end?

I think he knew exactly what he was doing and what was going on. After all, this was the second ceremony, the first being in HIS village the year before. From his statement below, I don't think there is any doubt about whether or not he had a "clue".

Quote: Originally Posted by spaminatorView Post

Saneie Masilela plans to marry someone his own age one day, but says he loves mother-of-five Helen Shabangu and wanted to go through the ritual to appease his family's ancestors, the U.K. Mirror reports

Quote: Originally Posted by QuebecCanadianView Post

Yeah, I agree....but the kiss is over the top, imo

Quote: Originally Posted by SLMView Post

Yeah there is an 'ick' factor there.

Why? Over the top or "ick" when Grandma kisses you? It was a kiss, nobody said anything about her jamming her tongue down his throat or rubbing his balls at the same time.
 
QuebecCanadian
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Quote: Originally Posted by gerryhView Post

I think he knew exactly what he was doing and what was going on. After all, this was the second ceremony, the first being in HIS village the year before. From his statement below, I don't think there is any doubt about whether or not he had a "clue".







Why? Over the top or "ick" when Grandma kisses you? It was a kiss, nobody said anything about her jamming her tongue down his throat or rubbing his balls at the same time.

Because she isn't his Grandma and she is 61 and he's 9.

Grandma doesn't kiss on the lips during a ritualistic marriage. 'cept maybe in Arkansas.
 
gerryh
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Quote: Originally Posted by QuebecCanadianView Post

Grandma doesn't kiss on the lips during a ritualistic marriage. 'cept maybe in Arkansas.


and you would know this because you have such a deep and extensive knowledge of these types of ceremonies, right?
 
QuebecCanadian
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Quote: Originally Posted by gerryhView Post

and you would know this because you have such a deep and extensive knowledge of these types of ceremonies, right?

Geez Gerry, lighten up. I know nothing about the ceremony....and I'm pretty sure I said up there ^ that I'd be curious to know more. The photo just gives me the heebie jeebies is all.


I guess you can see through my bullsh*t.
 
Kathie Bondar
#18
Oh Boy, how hard up can you get!
That poor sucker
 

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