I would be interested to know if anybody here can tell how many people s/he knows especially in what are considered advanced countries who still keep their virginity till they get married.
Some people seem to base their argument that it's unrealistic to keep virginity until you're married, cause that would lead to the pathway of having an unhappy marriage particularly sexually. Or to lead the pathway for the person him/herself to be unhappy to surpress his/her sexual desires.
So do you reckon what the Catholic religion demands on this virginity issue is unrealistic?
Why isolate the Catholic Church? Surely it is not the only denomination to teach chastity to its membership?
Not unrealistic at all. Many Catholic girls retain their virginity. It's a matter of choice.
Indeed it's a personal choice.
And when one makes a choice, there are consequences.
So I suppose your take on it is that this choice to keep virginity till one's married is not unrealistic as say it wouldn't lead to an unhappy marriage for example?
Just because I'm a Catholic, so at least I know a little about it (definitely won't say am an expert either!), whereas for other religions I have no good knowledge about them at all.
The Islamic faith preaches and expects chastity from its women. Certainly fundamentalist Protestants and the Orthodox and traditional Anglicans all preach remaining a virgin until one's wedding night.
I would be interested to know if anybody here can tell how many people s/he knows especially in what are considered advanced countries who still keep their virginity till they get married.
Some people seem to base their argument that it's unrealistic to keep virginity until you're married, cause that would lead to the pathway of having an unhappy marriage particularly sexually. Or to lead the pathway for the person him/herself to be unhappy to surpress his/her sexual desires.
So do you reckon what the Catholic religion demands on this virginity issue is unrealistic?
Just because I'm a Catholic, so at least I know a little about it (definitely won't say am an expert either!), whereas for other religions I have no good knowledge about them at all.
I would be interested to know if anybody here can tell how many people s/he knows especially in what are considered advanced countries who still keep their virginity till they get married.
Some people seem to base their argument that it's unrealistic to keep virginity until you're married, cause that would lead to the pathway of having an unhappy marriage particularly sexually. Or to lead the pathway for the person him/herself to be unhappy to surpress his/her sexual desires.
So do you reckon what the Catholic religion demands on this virginity issue is unrealistic?
Not unrealistic at all. Many Catholic girls retain their virginity. It's a matter of choice. Why isolate the Catholic Church? Surely it is not the only denomination to teach chastity to its membership?
To me, it doesn't matter. If someone ELSE wants to stay a virgin til they are 80, or sleep with everything they see...doesn't matter to me...that is their choice. I do what I wanna do.
A child has to have guidelines by which to follow for the safety of the child. But as the child matures, those guidelines fade away as the desire to voluntarily exercise them from the heart grows.
The virginity restraint is for immature children driven by fear of moral and physical consequences.
Moral because it works on the mind, and physically because it prevents early sexual promiscuity of which could lead to devastating consequences with unwanted children and or deceases.
But certainly not a sin preventing one from entering heaven.
Peace>>>AJ
Again, I see the decision as a very personal one. I don't think it is reserved for the very young. I think it can be a major decision for people of many ages...whether a virgin or not. These choices are up to the individual. I, personally, have made my own decisions.
I would like to agree with you on the many ages, but I can't. A child of eight may know what its abilities are sexually, but truly must have some restraints as protection for mis use of those abilities.
Not only that, but not having enough experience to make good and proper judgments.
Much like allowing sexually explicit movies to be watched on TV by 8 to 12 year olds.
If we as a society do not regulate those things by imposing restraints, then our children will be the recipients of the consequences of it.
Peace>>>AJ
Again, I see the decision as a very personal one. I don't think it is reserved for the very young. I think it can be a major decision for people of many ages...whether a virgin or not. These choices are up to the individual. I, personally, have made my own decisions.
It is not up to society to impose restraints on a person's sexuality or sexual behaviour. It is up to parents to set this agenda. Further, when a person reaches a mature age, it is their personal choice what sexual behaviour they will allow for themselves.
I would like to agree with you on the many ages, but I can't. A child of eight may know what its abilities are sexually, but truly must have some restraints as protection for mis use of those abilities.
Not only that, but not having enough experience to make good and proper judgments.
Much like allowing sexually explicit movies to be watched on TV by 8 to 12 year olds.
If we as a society do not regulate those things by imposing restraints, then our children will be the recipients of the consequences of it.
Peace>>>AJ
I don't think snfu73 meant little children when he said "many ages". I think it meant people of a legal age...be it 18 or 29 or 53. At any age it can be a difficult decision...giving up your virginity or even just deciding to sleep with someone if you're not a virgin.
Isn't chastity the absence of sex, and celibacy the absence of marriage? I know the dictionary conflates sex and marriage in celibacy, but what about the Mother Church?
Pangloss
The road to heaven is paved with excess.
Blake
