Okay, I don't exactly know where this thread might go, but I have been noticing something bothersome while on my bicycle rides through town.
I see, as I approach minorities of one kind or another, and especially Sikhs and old people (I consider old people a minority because they get treated as one), their faces tense in anticipation, a protective wariness comes over them - until I smile and say hello, then they look relieved, grateful and smile.
To me, this is terribly wrong. What is happening to those segments of society that such a scenario should ever take place? Does the Stupid White Man population send out waves of disapproval? I am appalled.
At a drop-in clinic one day, a Sikh dad was there with his lovely daughter, maybe six years old, or so. There was a Stupid White Woman sitting by the magazines and childrens books. When the little girl went over to get a book, the woman actually recoiled in disgust and shifted away from the little girl with barely concealed hostility. I wanted to go over and slap her bloody silly.
Many years ago, I had an incident in Vancouver in a parking arcade. An Indian couple came driving along too quickly and I had to slam on my brakes to prevent an accident. I made a face and a gesture, they did too, then I drove off and parked. Within a minute or so, it occurred to me that it just wasn't right, what had happened, so I walked over to them and apologized, even though it had not been my fault. They went from extremely tense and hostile to so unbelievably warm, I was stunned.
People have told me that Indians are 'pushy' and 'rude'. I have to ask them, 'wouldn't you be too, if you were treated the way they are treated?'
What kinds of messages do we convey to others as we go about our day? Are we impatient with old people who don't move fast enough or can't hear us when we mumble? Do we look away at a person of another culture because we feel ambiguous about how we feel? Do we subconsciously snub them in a myriad of ways?
Do we have any idea how much quality of life we strip away from these people when we behave as we do? Do we not recognize the power of such social shunning?
I see, as I approach minorities of one kind or another, and especially Sikhs and old people (I consider old people a minority because they get treated as one), their faces tense in anticipation, a protective wariness comes over them - until I smile and say hello, then they look relieved, grateful and smile.
To me, this is terribly wrong. What is happening to those segments of society that such a scenario should ever take place? Does the Stupid White Man population send out waves of disapproval? I am appalled.
At a drop-in clinic one day, a Sikh dad was there with his lovely daughter, maybe six years old, or so. There was a Stupid White Woman sitting by the magazines and childrens books. When the little girl went over to get a book, the woman actually recoiled in disgust and shifted away from the little girl with barely concealed hostility. I wanted to go over and slap her bloody silly.
Many years ago, I had an incident in Vancouver in a parking arcade. An Indian couple came driving along too quickly and I had to slam on my brakes to prevent an accident. I made a face and a gesture, they did too, then I drove off and parked. Within a minute or so, it occurred to me that it just wasn't right, what had happened, so I walked over to them and apologized, even though it had not been my fault. They went from extremely tense and hostile to so unbelievably warm, I was stunned.
People have told me that Indians are 'pushy' and 'rude'. I have to ask them, 'wouldn't you be too, if you were treated the way they are treated?'
What kinds of messages do we convey to others as we go about our day? Are we impatient with old people who don't move fast enough or can't hear us when we mumble? Do we look away at a person of another culture because we feel ambiguous about how we feel? Do we subconsciously snub them in a myriad of ways?
Do we have any idea how much quality of life we strip away from these people when we behave as we do? Do we not recognize the power of such social shunning?