Done Nice Today?

Done Nice Today?

Goober

#1Aug 2nd, 2010

Done Nice Today?

Thank you – Your welcome – Excuse Me – and more. It does matter

So did you perform a random act of kindness by being courteous today – Did you take the time to say to a total stranger good morning or afternoon – You never know how that may make a person’s day improve and set the tone for their whole day. It is amazing what a few kind words or a compliment can do.

One day in the grocery store as I approached to get in the line-up a women, in her 70’s I guessed was ahead of me- I had said excuse me Miss – She turned to me with a very large smile and relied – Do you know how long it has been since someone called me Miss – You have made my day and she thanked me

I have noticed how manners have mostly disappeared – Many are to busy to say hello or excuse me – that 10 seconds can come back to haunt you –

I see grown men and women in a line-up **** and crap at the cashier because a price was not correct and it takes time to check it and they are in a rush - to hell it seems – it is not the cashiers fault – and everyone in line keeps their mouth shut – Yes I do keep quiet but not all the time and I have taken more of a proactive attitude when this occurs – Basically I am tired of this rude crap and tell them so – sometime I am polite sometimes not depends upon the person and how much they denigrated the cashier– Sure one day some young fellow will try and punch me out –

So during your day do you take that extra few seconds to buy the person behind you in a Tim’s drive thru a coffee –

Do you take the time to apologize?

If you were an ass in public, apologize in public – only fair to the person that receives it that you are mature enough to take your lumps publicly.

Do you take the time, it is one of the most important things you can do for your piece of mind and health –

Do you?

Or are you to busy?

AnnaG

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Haven't been out in public today. Well, cept for my run to the park and back and the swim in between. I waved to a few cars during my run, though. No-one at the park.

Goober

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnaG

Haven't been out in public today. Well, cept for my run to the park and back and the swim in between. I waved to a few cars during my run, though. No-one at the park.

I should have adeed lately or recently

Like slowing down to let a person change lanes when driving, stopping to let a person cross a road.

Saying good morning to someone.

Just being pleasant to someone.

relic

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Holding doors for folks,putting your cart back.It seemed like only "older"people used to do stuff like that,but,"young"people are older now.I was to the market the other day ,it was packed as usual,what a bunch of arseholes,I like being nice just to confuse 'em.

gerryh

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

If you have to think about whether or not you have or have not, or even if you have to Ask the question, then the answer is you have not done it or done it any where near enough.

Goober

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by gerryh

If you have to think about whether or not you have or have not, or even if you have to Ask the question, then the answer is you have not done it or done it any where near enough.

Again you rise to the ocassion. much like shzt floats - You have a problem with me - then settle it.

Send a PM.

gerryh

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by Goober

I should have adeed lately or recently

Like slowing down to let a person change lanes when driving, stopping to let a person cross a road.

Saying good morning to someone.

Just being pleasant to someone.

Ya, because just doing it quietly is not enough. One needs to make an announcement and a big deal. Gotta get their pat on the back.

Ron in Regina

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Maybe in sharing ones good deeds, they become contagious, and some
turn into many....from some folks to many folks...

Goober

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by Ron in Regina

Maybe in sharing ones good deeds, they become contagious, and some
turn into many....from some folks to many folks...

That is the reason behind the thread Ron - Thank you

Risus

#10

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by relic

Holding doors for folks,

I was taught to do that when I was a kid, and still do it, but what pi$$es me of is when the recipient of the good deed doesn't even acknowledge it....

Goober

#11

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by Risus

I was taught to do that when I was a kid, and still do it, but what pi$$es me of is when the recipient of the good deed doesn't even acknowledge it....

Nothing like bad manners to piss a person off- But then on the other side others do appreciate it. Do they not?

lone wolf

#12

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by Risus

I was taught to do that when I was a kid, and still do it, but what pi$$es me of is when the recipient of the good deed doesn't even acknowledge it....

Say "You're welcome!" anyhow. Maybe they just left the manners in their other trousers....

Goober

#13

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf

Say "You're welcome!" anyhow. Maybe they just left the manners in their other trousers....

I meet those types on a daily basis - i also meet those that appreciate it and respond in kind - That is the difference.

Risus

#14

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf

Say "You're welcome!" anyhow. Maybe they just left the manners in their other trousers....

I actually do that, and if still no response tell them what to do. I've noticed that most of them are visible minorities.

lone wolf

#15 Top Rated Post

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Maybe the nice thing would be in not noticing.

gerryh

#16

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Yup, need the pat on the back. Not being done just because, otherwise ya's wouldn't get ticked because they didn't acknowledge what you did.

Goober

#17

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf

Maybe the nice thing would be in not noticing.

I think that is an excellent point - I will use that the next time someone states they did not get a thank you etc. It is an eye opener of an excellent point.

VanIsle

#18

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by gerryh

Yup, need the pat on the back. Not being done just because, otherwise ya's wouldn't get ticked because they didn't acknowledge what you did.

You know gerry, you are right. We should do nice things for people and not get all up tight if they do not appear to appreciate it and we should not require a pat on the back for every little thing we do. I'd like to thank you for pointing that out.
I want to thank Goober also. I don't see him as looking for a pat on the back. He's opened a thread about something that people need to see and he's provided some examples. I'm always happy to see a thread on good manners.
The only person I had the opportunity to thank today was my husband. He BBQ'd the steak for dinner and since I don't like to BBQ if I can get out of it, I was happy he did it for me. I thanked him. We've been together for nearly 44 years and we still thank each other for everything. It's just good manners.
I was a cashier. I've had both men and women yelling insults at me and for exactly the reason you pointed out Goober. Because, while the store had the price right, the customer believed the price was wrong. People should learn to read the name on the tags above and below a product. It would also save a lot of time and effort if people read the cost of bulk products and maybe weighed them before getting to the cashier with 2 - 3 pounds of something that is going to cost them $25.00 and they have to embarrass themselves by saying "that costs that much! Do I have to take it?".
Because I said hello to a very old woman who bought my house, another woman loudly tapped her debit card on the counter to draw my attention immediately back to her. I wasn't having a conversation. I just said hello. I've also had people spend other peoples time even further by telling me how much of an idiot they thought the person who wanted the price check was, not realizing that their complaining about that person has now delayed the rest of the lineup. I've also had older people wanting someone to say a few words to them and I've had younger people (especially women) in the line behind them tell me how much they appreciate that I took the time. They meant it sincerely. I had one woman pay for a starving college students groceries all because she could see the girl was hesitating about whether she could afford the purchase. They did not know each other. I've been gone from my job for almost 4 months now. When I go there to shop, I come across lots of customers that still remember me and still say hello. I like that.

gopher

#19

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Random acts of kindness!

A wonderful subject! I will never forget an incident that I was involved with in West St Paul about 10 years ago: an elderly gentleman walked the streets of WSP, always carried his golf jacket on his shoulder, always smiled and said hello to everyone, and hung around the corner of Butler & Robert Street never bothering anyone. One day I did some shopping in that corner and had a coupon for Dairy Queen (a two for one deal). I decided to reward myself by getting a super ice cream fudge. With the coupon I got an extra one for free and gave it to the elderly gentleman. Can you believe the HUGE smile on his face when I gave it to him!!!!

I walked home that day - about a mile or so. I well remember his appreciative smile. And while he got himself a freebie from me, the memory of his terrific show of appreciation is one that has rewarded me infinitely more than anything. The elderly gentleman is gone now. But I shall never forget him.

VanIsle

#20

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by gopher

Random acts of kindness!

A wonderful subject! I will never forget an incident that I was involved with in West St Paul about 10 years ago: an elderly gentleman walked the streets of WSP, always carried his golf jacket on his shoulder, always smiled and said hello to everyone, and hung around the corner of Butler & Robert Street never bothering anyone. One day I did some shopping in that corner and had a coupon for Dairy Queen (a two for one deal). I decided to reward myself by getting a super ice cream fudge. With the coupon I got an extra one for free and gave it to the elderly gentleman. Can you believe the HUGE smile on his face when I gave it to him!!!!

I walked home that day - about a mile or so. I well remember his appreciative smile. And while he got himself a freebie from me, the memory of his terrific show of appreciation is one that has rewarded me infinitely more than anything. The elderly gentleman is gone now. But I shall never forget him.

Good for you gopher. I'm sure his response to you simply helped you to continue your Random Acts of Kindness which is something people can look up on Google when seeking such things as unfound family members in genealogy. I'm sure it's not just in Canada.

AnnaG

#21

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 2nd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by Goober

I should have adeed lately or recently

Like slowing down to let a person change lanes when driving, stopping to let a person cross a road.

Saying good morning to someone.

Just being pleasant to someone.

Always stopping for pedestrians even though there's no stop sign or lights. I let people into the traffic line in front of me. I signal when changing lanes or turning. lol I know, I'm weird.

I hold doors for people, too. And smile a lot.

Quote: Originally Posted by Ron in Regina

Maybe in sharing ones good deeds, they become contagious, and some
turn into many....from some folks to many folks...

Yup. Pay it forward.

Beats wandering around swearing at people and telling them they are idiots.

Goober

#22

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnaG

Always stopping for pedestrians even though there's no stop sign or lights. I let people into the traffic line in front of me. I signal when changing lanes or turning. lol I know, I'm weird.
I hold doors for people, too. And smile a lot.

Yup. Pay it forward.

Beats wandering around swearing at people and telling them they are idiots.

I am a firm believer in you reap what you sow,

VanIsle

#23

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Karma

JBeee

#24

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

I make it a point every morning to belittle the morons at the local drive-thru (Timmys) while ordering a coffee.

`hi Tem-Hoton how may I hep you pease`

One med double-double` I reply.

`wood you like do-nut wit coffee sir?`

I reply...Try getting my coffee correct and quit wasting my time. I have a REAL job to go to.

This really makes my day.

CDNBear

#25

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by JBeee

I make it a point every morning to belittle the morons at the local drive-thru (Timmys) while ordering a coffee.

`hi Tem-Hoton how may I hep you pease`

One med double-double` I reply.

`wood you like do-nut wit coffee sir?`

I reply...Try getting my coffee correct and quit wasting my time. I have a REAL job to go to.

This really makes my day.

Of course it does. Thankfully those pleabs exist to serve you, as lowly as they maybe. Hopefully nothing should change and you're forced to fend for yourself. Those pleabs may actually be the ones looking down their noses at people like you. But I doubt it, I know some of those lowlifes that shlep coffee to make ends meet, they would likely not care about such trivial things and be as cordial to you as they possibly could.

Until they got to know that is.

VanIsle

#26

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by JBeee

I make it a point every morning to belittle the morons at the local drive-thru (Timmys) while ordering a coffee.

`hi Tem-Hoton how may I hep you pease`

One med double-double` I reply.

`wood you like do-nut wit coffee sir?`

I reply...Try getting my coffee correct and quit wasting my time. I have a REAL job to go to.

This really makes my day.

Morons! Not nice. No wonder you have nothing but "reds". They could be people on welfare but they are there, 24/7 to serve you your coffee. They are pleasant to you because it is a part of their job. Have the grace to recognize these are working people like you. Before you lash out at these poor "plebes" maybe you should look at yourself and your real job. I doubt that anyone who spells the word would as wood is faring much better at a job then the people at Timmy's or anywhere else you may want to get your morning coffee. If these people are such peons that you don't want to deal with them, why don't you try making coffee at home?

petros

#27

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

I wonder how well JBee would do working at a Jollibee in Manila? Jbee..... Jollibee... Coincidence? Are you the only Flip in Canada to get turned down for a job at Tims?

lone wolf

#28

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

My daughter tells me about JBee's quite a bit. I bet their uppity streaks would come to screeching halts if they ever knew what was customized just for their drinking pleasures.

That would REALLY make my day....

petros

#29

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf

My daughter tells me about JBee's quite a bit. I bet their uppity streaks would come to screeching halts if they ever knew what was customized just for their drinking pleasures....

We have Jollibees in Canada? Fried plantains and all that good stuff?

CDNBear

#30

Re: Done Nice Today?

Aug 3rd, 2010

Quote: Originally Posted by petros

We have Jollibees in Canada? Fried plantains and all that good stuff?

I believe there's one in Mississauga.

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