the Makeup of Toxic Relationships

Karlin

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$35billion spent on makeup every year is hiding something!!

When a relationship starts out based on phoney expectations and false promises, we get a +50% divorce rate, for one.

A young lady recently lamented "I don't get paid much here, not even enough to buy my makeup, and how can I ever get a boyfriend without my makeup?" she was almost in tears, I could see that she really felt hopeless.

Right away, I offered to fuck her. That didn't seem to be what she was trying to tell me - the stinging slap on my face told me I had said the wrong thing. {gosh I am funny eh?]

Beyond the toxic start to relationships [courtesy of mass-advertising brainwashing that creates a consumer base based on our insecurites that we are not good enough on our own,as we are] where makeup is a central element , the makeup itself is toxic physically.

The FDA says:"FDA cannot require companies to do safety testing of their cosmetic products before marketing".
Or, they don't WANT to. They COULD, but that would just make trouble as customers get freaked out by the poisens in the products. THe FDA acts like it has a vested interest in cosmetic corporation's profits.... well , yes, they do - protecting corporate profits is what the FDA is all about. Protecting the public is not.

CUSTOMERS themselves could elicit a change in toxic products by doing one very essential tactic : DON'T BUY IT ULESS THE INGREDIENTS ARE LISTED.

There is no rule that says anything but food needs to declare the ingredients, but there is no rule that says they can't if they choose to.
"WAAAA" "Trade secrets will be lost then!" they cry...
no they won't - a product's uniqueness is all about the ratios and processes and so on that are not being disclosed by listing ingredients.
But losing customers for a lack of label information is still lost. It won't work to demand listing of ingredients unless enough people do it.

I do it, I have done it faithfull for several years where I find the product I am needing, and read the label. If the product goes on my skin or in my mouth, or is something I might breathe in, I put it back on the shelf UNLESS THE INGREDIENTS ARE LISTED.

And if they are listed, I put it back on the shelf if the ingredients are toxic.
As for the ingredients that I don't know about - if they are toxic or not - its easy to go home and Google it. I have even asked to use a store computer to Google with. And one time I asked the store's manager if I could google his daughter. He didn't understand what I meant, so he hit me. Its a good thing he didn't understand or he would have really hurt me!! [kidding, lighten up eh?]

Karlin
 

Karlin

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Re: PUT IT BACK UNLESS THE INGREDIENTS ARE LISTED

http://www.ewg.org/reports/skindeep/report/executive_summary.php


At that link, see show times for a CBC[Canada] TV special this sunday night in prime time on cosmetic toxicity.

once more, svp -
PUT IT BACK ON THE SHELF UNLESS THE INGREDIENTS ARE LISTED

Karlin
"Remember, They create the problems and then offer the Solutions"

{the cosmetic industry is creating the illusion that "you are ugly-without-makeup", and then offer the solution - makeup! }
 

Cosmo

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Interesting topic, Karlin!

The whole makeup thing was a real issue in the lesbian community back when I came out. "Real" dykes didn't wear makeup or paint their nails. Thankfully that's changed, but it was quite interesting.

I wear makeup ... don't even take the garbage out without my mascara on! I love it. It's part of being a woman for me. I don't see it as a mask of any sort ... any lover who spends the night with me sees me without my makeup. I have no problem with that. But I love the paint and polish and glitter.

Ornamentation has always been part of beauty. In particular, the ancient Egyptians (both male and female) wore eye makeup. I think it's gorgeous. Native Indians, too, wore a form of makeup.

In my opinion, it's part of self expression, much like my tattoos. Anything that enhances self esteem and makes us feel attractive is a good thing, in my book. Provided, of course, it's not part of a body dysmorphic disorder. Like anything, makeup can be used as part of some psychological glitch.

To be totally honest, I look at drag queens and wish I had the time and energy to put into looking like that every day! I love the glitz, glamour, sparkles, over the top clothes and makeup. I love it!! It's all theatre ... all about fun.

I do agree, however, about the ingredients in makeup. Often they are innocuous ... the sparkle frequently comes from fish scales, etc. While I do always ensure anything I buy is not tested on animals, I hadn't considered checking other ingredients. I certainly will do so from now on. Usually anything that doesn't agree with me gets used once and thrown out. I pay attention to anything I put in or on my body in terms of whether it causes adverse reaction.

I'm looking forward to hearing what people think of this topic!
 

annabattler

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RE: the Makeup of Toxic R

I guess I have to wonder where the whole idea of make-up came from.
Tribes in Africa still use the neck-lengthening necklaces...x-rays show the shoulders pressed out of any natural shape...or the "plates" inserted into the bottom lip.
Men used to adorn themselves(and still do),first with body paint, and then tattoos.
The latest thing seems to be body-piercing...again,not new...many tribes have been piercing for generations.
My hunch is the tribal motivation is different than our North American motivation.Is make-up used entirely for one's personal satisfaction,or is a way of making a woman more attractive and noticeable for a man/woman?
I do know it's a billion dollar industry, with advertisng budgets big enough to support a whole country.