Jari Iivanainen has wrote very interesting article about marriage advice:
http://koti.phnet.fi/elohim/help_to_marriage
When a man or a woman find a spouse for themselves, they may marry thinking, that they will live "happily ever after". They may think, that nothing can disturb their happiness, and that their life together will be like sunshine every day without any clouds. They might also doubt that their relationship would have any serious problems, because everything has gone so well so far.
However, the fact is that we live in an imperfect and fallen world in which nothing is as it was when Adam and Eve lived together in paradise. In practise this imperfection means, that when people get together, they also bring to the marriage their own difficult personalities and especially their selfishness, which is a result of the Fall of man and certainly the biggest reason of homes breaking up these days. If we don't want to be freed from this selfishness, it can greatly harm the relationship.
In any case, through the following pages we are going to deal with this area especially in the light of the Bible. We are going to concentrate on those common mistakes and ways of doing things which we might be guilty of because we haven't seen them in ourselves, nobody has ever told us about them or because we have not understood them in the light of the Bible. If you notice any of the issues we are going to bring up in your own life, you can be freed from them; especially if you ask for God’s help.
http://koti.phnet.fi/elohim/help_to_marriage
When a man or a woman find a spouse for themselves, they may marry thinking, that they will live "happily ever after". They may think, that nothing can disturb their happiness, and that their life together will be like sunshine every day without any clouds. They might also doubt that their relationship would have any serious problems, because everything has gone so well so far.
However, the fact is that we live in an imperfect and fallen world in which nothing is as it was when Adam and Eve lived together in paradise. In practise this imperfection means, that when people get together, they also bring to the marriage their own difficult personalities and especially their selfishness, which is a result of the Fall of man and certainly the biggest reason of homes breaking up these days. If we don't want to be freed from this selfishness, it can greatly harm the relationship.
In any case, through the following pages we are going to deal with this area especially in the light of the Bible. We are going to concentrate on those common mistakes and ways of doing things which we might be guilty of because we haven't seen them in ourselves, nobody has ever told us about them or because we have not understood them in the light of the Bible. If you notice any of the issues we are going to bring up in your own life, you can be freed from them; especially if you ask for God’s help.
