@ #it's not u, it's me

[Locutus]

You damn kids and your infernal gadets.

Grow a pair, break-up face to face and feel the guilt, revel in the sting of humiliation. Feel a woman's slap across your face, a drink poured in your lap.


One-third have broken up by Facebook, text or e-mail--survey


Do you need more proof of this sad and very modern truth? Oh, you do. Then please let me help you. A survey conducted by market researchers Lot 42 declares that 33 percent of human beings have broken up with their beloveds by text, e-mail, or Facebook.
Yes, Facebook.
You might imagine that I am talking about 13-year-olds. Because you definitely, surely have to be 13 to be on Facebook. Yet, no. This survey purports to offer the truths of 550 people older than 18--and, clearly, over the first flushes of love.





more unfriending, I don't heart you anymore here


One-third have broken up by Facebook, text or e-mail--survey | Technically Incorrect - CNET News

 

[mentalfloss]

Makes sense.

One-third of relationships probably aren't even serious enough to warrant a face to face.

 

[JLM]

I've been trying to make up my mind whether Facebook is a detriment or a liability. :lol:

 

[WLDB]

Times change.

 

[petros]

I had no idea 1/3 of humans were on Fascistbook let alone 1/3 admitting to breaking up on Fascistbook.

 

[TenPenny]

I had no idea 1/3 of humans were on Fascistbook let alone 1/3 admitting to breaking up on Fascistbook.

There is no possible way that 1/3 of humans are on Facebook.

Last time I did it, I broke up the old fashioned way - I never called her back. For six months. And that was only to get my stuff back. I think she figured it out after a while, but 'her pride' wouldn't allow her to call me.

 

[IdRatherBeSkiing]

I had no idea 1/3 of humans were on Fascistbook let alone 1/3 admitting to breaking up on Fascistbook.

Or by text or e-mail.

 

[petros]

There is no possible way that 1/3 of humans are on Facebook.

Last time I did it, I broke up the old fashioned way - I never called her back. For six months. And that was only to get my stuff back. I think she figured it out after a while, but 'her pride' wouldn't allow her to call me.

A survey conducted by market
researchers Lot 42
declares that 33 percent of human beings have
broken up with their beloveds by text, e-mail, or Facebook.

I think I was 16 the last time I broke up with a gal. I don't remember how I did it.

 

[VanIsle]

I think I was 16 the last time I broke up with a gal. I don't remember how I did it.

I know I was 17 and it was face to face. I felt so bad because he was so upset but - he walked away like a man. Met up with him about a year after I was married. He was with some guy (out having a drink) and I was with my family. I said "hello" on my way by as I had known him most of my life and it was the polite thing to do. To my embarrassment, the guy he was with called out in a loud voice "you're still in love with her!" The music and dancing going on was good. It covered what was said so that I could just keep walking pretending I never noticed. I found out 15 years ago that he killed himself and I have no idea why. No - I'm not suggesting it was over me. There were years and years between when I saw him last and when he took leave of this world. Kind of sad though. I liked his best friend better than him. Dated him too but I heard he drank himself to death. His wife left him so maybe that's why. Odd things happen in our lives but I liked it better when we had to break up either face to face or voice to voice via the telephone. Face Book? Pretty cheesy way to break up. Unless they are using private messaging, nothing like letting everyone know it's over.

 

[petros]

I assume you dropped him because he wasn't very mature?

 

[TenPenny]

 

[Corduroy]

Breaking up face to face is hypocritical. Why would I see someone to tell them I don't want to see them anymore? Should we say "I think we should see each one more time, this time, and then after today not anymore."?

Breaking up on the phone or via text message or facebook is more logical.

 

[Dexter Sinister]

Breaking up on the phone or via text message or facebook is more logical.

In my considered opinion, that just telegraphs the fact that the person doing the dumping never took it seriously or cared much in the first place, and is fundamentally shallow, vapid, and a coward, so it's probably a good thing the relationship's over, it was doomed from the start and the dumper knew it. People who take relationships seriously don't do things like that.

It's about respect and courtesy, not logic.

 

[DurkaDurka]

I wonder if there was a similar reaction when people started to break up over the old copper wire phone system?

Personally, I would have loved to dump someone via carrier pigeon.

 

[mentalfloss]

It's about respect and courtesy, not logic.

It's about time and sex.

 

[petros]

It's about time and sex.

21 years that went by in blink and she's friskier than ever. That's a long time, a lot of boinking, no more bills to argue over. Youth have no patience at all these days.

 

[VanIsle]

In my considered opinion, that just telegraphs the fact that the person doing the dumping never took it seriously or cared much in the first place, and is fundamentally shallow, vapid, and a coward, so it's probably a good thing the relationship's over, it was doomed from the start and the dumper knew it. People who take relationships seriously don't do things like that.

It's about respect and courtesy, not logic.

I fully agree. It's not about a "last date". Anyone who gets a call saying something along the lines of "Can we meet for coffee - I have to talk to you", has a pretty good idea that they are about to be dumped. It's called letting someone down gently and there is no reason to let the FB world know ahead of time. A few months ago my nephew broke up with his girlfriend. All I saw on FB was a notice from him stating that he was "single". He has never been married but it was a way of letting people know his status without breaking up on FB but after breaking up.

 

[WLDB]

I've been dumped over msn messenger and the phone before. Made no difference to me what the method was. Before the internet a fair number used notes or letters to do it. There have always been cowards who want to avoid an unpleasant meeting. They're just more open about it now.

What I find more disturbing is my mother texted me to tell me my grandmother died. That I found to be totally f*cked up. It actually took a few hours before I took in the actual news because the way I found out itself was more upsetting at first.

 

[VanIsle]

I've been dumped over msn messenger and the phone before. Made no difference to me what the method was. Before the internet a fair number used notes or letters to do it. There have always been cowards who want to avoid an unpleasant meeting. They're just more open about it now.

What I find more disturbing is my mother texted me to tell me my grandmother died. That I found to be totally f*cked up. It actually took a few hours before I took in the actual news because the way I found out itself was more upsetting at first.

That's awful. Sorry but that was a cold hearted act. She didn't know how to tell you so she texted it instead. It's like people who won't stay in the room with someone who is breathing their last breaths and needing a little loving support. Selfish. Sometimes you just have to "man up" so to speak. Have an in law that could not stay in the room with her husband while he was on life support and then when he was taken off. Couldn't call her brother to let him know his Dad died. Waited for my husband to get there to do the deed and now the brother blames him because no one told him in time for him to get to the funeral. There is no room in my life for this kind of junk.

 

[JLM]

That's awful. Sorry but that was a cold hearted act. She didn't know how to tell you so she texted it instead. It's like people who won't stay in the room with someone who is breathing their last breaths and needing a little loving support. Selfish. Sometimes you just have to "man up" so to speak. Have an in law that could not stay in the room with her husband while he was on life support and then when he was taken off. Couldn't call her brother to let him know his Dad died. Waited for my husband to get there to do the deed and now the brother blames him because no one told him in time for him to get to the funeral. There is no room in my life for this kind of junk.

There are some people who just can't deal with death, but I don't think it makes them any less of a person. Hell, I know people who can't even stomach going to funerals. Some people can't handle the sight of blood. If you can't do you can't do it, nothing to do with selfishness. Just for the record, I've been to quite a few funerals but I've never been in the room with a dying person, so I would never pass judgment on that aspect. :smile: