Quote: Originally Posted by El Barto
I would believe that gay parents would probably do a much better job then those hetero sexual parents who neglect thier children. Seeming they want to adopt , they are intent to give thier children love and attention they so desperatly need.
You are comparing an adoption to a natural method of becoming a parent. To do a true comparison you would have to stick just with adoptions. Do hetro couples neglect adopted babies?
Adoption is the only way they can have children, doh.
A gay couple who want to be parents should get their first child from one of their family members. When adopting, do they ask for the 'same sex as they are' or are the applications for a child of the opposite sex?
Nobody frowns on a man and woman living together for life and not being married. Nobody much cares if they have children either. The neglect of children usually comes into play when 'step-parents' enter the picture, (not always but don't try to tell me every man who tags up with a woman who has children is overwhelmed with joy at the added faces that have come into his life). If you think that is bull go look at some stats of child abuse and compare the numbers to 'natural parents' vs 'one unnatural parent'.
It doesn't bother me if two people of the same sex want to live together in a sexual relationship. But when it comes to 'needing a certificate' to hang on the wall to feel like it's a 'normal relationship' or the more extreme case of needing the sounds of 'little feet' parading around to feel 'normal' well maybe it is just something you might have to deal with without getting your wish. Take up a joint hobby or go traveling, parenting isn't the end all of being in a long term relationship.
A really devoted parent is more or less somebody who has said to themselves "I really, really want to make myself a slave to somebody else for the next 20 years' If most of the duties are passed off onto nannies or baby-sitters why bother in the first place.
Here's another thing you can disagree with, the healthiest child (the one who will need the least amount of 'correction in their teens of adulthood') is the one who is raised by the most intelligent parent. That would mean, in some cases, it should be the father who is the 'stay at home mom'.