iphone help pls!!!!!!!


Stonera
#1
Recently, some weird things is troubling me. I wonder whether it is possible for someone who has access to my cell phone to install mobile spy software on the mobile phone to track my phone activity, so that he knows when and what I do. I suspect that my BF installed some mobile spy software on my phone, for he seems to know one of my male friend's name, which I've never mentioned to him before. Besides, several times, he spilled the beans and he even knew most of my activities that he should not know. He is familar with some mobile phone software as I know.
Can anyone give me some advice and tell me what I should do?
 
karrie
#2
Get a new phone and keep it away from him.

And then get as far away from him as you can. You obviously can't or don't trust him. No point in sticking around for that kind of relationship
 
Praxius
#3
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

Recently, some weird things is troubling me. I wonder whether it is possible for someone who has access to my cell phone to install mobile spy software on the mobile phone to track my phone activity, so that he knows when and what I do. I suspect that my BF installed some mobile spy software on my phone, for he seems to know one of my male friend's name, which I've never mentioned to him before. Besides, several times, he spilled the beans and he even knew most of my activities that he should not know. He is familar with some mobile phone software as I know.
Can anyone give me some advice and tell me what I should do?

Go to your phone dealer and explain the situation.... chances are someone there will know what to look for, check your phone for any additional programs or plugins and wipe them for you.

You could also try and seek legal action for tampering with your property, invading your privacy and probably a few other things. The phone company might even have a few issues with what he did.

But more importantly, if you can't trust your boyfriend and your boyfriend clearly doesn't seem to trust you to the point he'd spy on what you do on your cell...... then I'd suggest no longer being his girlfriend and ending the relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship..... without privacy there is no trust.

I'm sure his defence will be something along the lines of loving you too much that he doesn't want anything to happen to you, so he spies on everything you do as if he's some possessive Twilight vampire..... but don't fall for that crap. Life's too short to be playing these stupid games with childish men with their own insecurities they throw onto you to deal with.

If it was me, I'd dump his sorry ass and move on.

Then again, if nothing is found on your phone, maybe he's not spying on you...... but I'd still confront him about wtf you think is going on and get right down to the truth.

A guy who would stoop to doing something like the above is one crazy whack job who has a lot of issues and insecurities they need to deal with before they commit to any relationship..... and it's not your duty to try and fix him or change him.... nor is it his duty to do that to you.
 
bill barilko
#4
Quote: Originally Posted by karrie View Post

Get a new phone and keep it away from him.

And then get as far away from him as you can. You obviously can't or don't trust him. No point in sticking around for that kind of relationship

Agreed.

Quote: Originally Posted by Praxius View Post

......dump his sorry ass and move on.
A guy who would stoop to doing something like the above is one crazy whack job who has a lot of issues and insecurities they need to deal with before they commit to any relationship..... and it's not your duty to try and fix him or change him.... nor is it his duty to do that to you.

Again very much agree.
 
Stonera
#5
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

Recently, some weird things is troubling me. I wonder whether it is possible for someone who has access to my cell phone to install mobile spy software on the mobile phone to track my phone activity, so that he knows when and what I do. I suspect that my BF installed some mobile spy software on my phone, for he seems to know one of my male friend's name, which I've never mentioned to him before. Besides, several times, he spilled the beans and he even knew most of my activities that he should not know. He is familar with some mobile phone software as I know.
Can anyone give me some advice and tell me what I should do?

Quote: Originally Posted by Praxius View Post

Go to your phone dealer and explain the situation.... chances are someone there will know what to look for, check your phone for any additional programs or plugins and wipe them for you.

You could also try and seek legal action for tampering with your property, invading your privacy and probably a few other things. The phone company might even have a few issues with what he did.

But more importantly, if you can't trust your boyfriend and your boyfriend clearly doesn't seem to trust you to the point he'd spy on what you do on your cell...... then I'd suggest no longer being his girlfriend and ending the relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship..... without privacy there is no trust.

I'm sure his defence will be something along the lines of loving you too much that he doesn't want anything to happen to you, so he spies on everything you do as if he's some possessive Twilight vampire..... but don't fall for that crap. Life's too short to be playing these stupid games with childish men with their own insecurities they throw onto you to deal with.

If it was me, I'd dump his sorry ass and move on.

Then again, if nothing is found on your phone, maybe he's not spying on you...... but I'd still confront him about wtf you think is going on and get right down to the truth.

A guy who would stoop to doing something like the above is one crazy whack job who has a lot of issues and insecurities they need to deal with before they commit to any relationship..... and it's not your duty to try and fix him or change him.... nor is it his duty to do that to you.


Thanks, Praxius
 
petros
#6
Disable the "kid's safety" features.
 
Stonera
#7
Quote: Originally Posted by karrie View Post

Get a new phone and keep it away from him.

And then get as far away from him as you can. You obviously can't or don't trust him. No point in sticking around for that kind of relationship

But it's difficult for me to do that successfully.
 
petros
#8
Get a ghost sim card with two numbers.

Sunsky - 007 Magicsim Double Mode Invisible Dual SIM Card (23th-A)
 
Dexter Sinister
#9
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

But it's difficult for me to do that successfully.

Which of those is difficult, getting a new phone or getting away from him? Neither of those should be difficult, unless this guy's an abuser and a stalker--which he is if he's installed monitoring software--and then you need help from police and social service agencies. This story feels like there are many more layers to it, this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. He may have installed monitoring software on your phone, but it doesn't really have to be that high tech. A few minutes with your phone, to study your contact list, call history, and text messages, would tell him quite a lot. And even if he's done only that, I think I'd still label him an abuser and a stalker; it doesn't have to be physical to be abuse. I think this guy's trouble and the relationship is going nowhere, do whatever you have to do to get away.
 
Ariadne
#10
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

But it's difficult for me to do that successfully.

I think you have to. If indeed a boyfriend is spying on your telephone activities, then he has a controlling personality. This sort of activity escalates. Today it is spying on your contact with friends, next it is bad mouthing them, then isolating you from those friends, then isolating you from family ... it doesn't stop.

What is the difficulty that you think is the obstacle in separating yourself from someone that will eventually be a very destructive force in your life?
 
bobnoorduyn
#11
Everyone is equipped with a sixth sense, some of whose are just more developed than others, (it takes practice). Your feeling of unease is that sense flashing a whole bunch of amber warning lights at you. Whatever you do, do it with caution, but do it before you're in over your head. Sorry I can not give technical advice. Good luck.
 
Praxius
#12
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

Thanks, Praxius

No worries, but something else crossed my mind yesterday......

You may also encounter the situation where he openly confesses and spills the beans, gives you some blubbering excuse and makes claims along the lines of learning his lesson and promising never to do something like that again.

This is a type of tactic/action of insecurity or personal kink that some guys can't just simply turn off, nor is this something he's never done before. You yourself said he knows a lot about these type of programs. That would have been my first clue not to be around this guy, simply because that's something you don't really brag about as being a good thing, especially to someone you want to be in a relationship with.

Maybe he was just being honest about it..... it doesn't help to be honest about what you say, yet dishonest with your actions.

He might apologize and promise never to do it again because he learned his lesson and doesn't want to ruin the relationship you guys have together...... but he already ruined it and forgiving him will only further enable his negative traits. He would have just gotten away with bloody murder with you and after a short period of time, he'll try again, only by using a different program and making sure he covers his tracks better the next time around.

He'll still be spying and still won't trust you because it sounds to me like he's been doing this for a while now.... and he'll keep doing it to you or someone else until he receives consequences for his actions he can learn from..... which is ending up being alone and not being forgiven...... perhaps that might hit home to him that what he's doing is unacceptable and will end up ruining any other relationship he seeks..... and if it doesn't stop and never learns from his mistakes..... at the very least he's no longer your problem to deal with

Added:

Oh, and I'd suggest that after you get your phone cleared of anything you don't want on it..... put on a locking password so nobody else can frig around with your phone while you're not nearby.

Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

But it's difficult for me to do that successfully.

If you're referring to getting away from the guy, even if the guy was timid as a panda cub, ending any relationship is going to be difficult and it's never really easy.

If he's threatening or mentally/physically abusive, there's a real good and easy way of solving that problem, but you may not like it.

Get the police involved, tell them everything that is going on, if you have been abused then provide evidence to back up your claims..... tell them about your phone being spied on...... inform your family, your friends and anybody you can think of about this ass clown, what you went through and to not just keep away from him, but keep an eye on him.

If he tries to pull anything or just won't leave you alone, he'll soon learn that not only are the police following what he's doing, but so are all your friends & family..... and if anything does happen..... everybody is going to know who to look for first...... so it'd make a hell of a lot more sense for him to move on with his life and leave you the hell alone before things get worse for him.

But I'm just guessing based on available information as to what situation you are really dealing with....... in either case, no matter how difficult choices or actions may be in getting out of this situation, it's never impossible, there are always ways to get out of any situation, even if you have to resort to staying with parents, friends or other family for a while..... I'm sure they'd rather you stay with them then to risk staying with this clown.

Sometimes you have to start over again in life, from scratch..... I've ended up doing that..... um.... hmmm..... about 6 times now in my life.... my 7th time starting all over again will be in a couple more months when I move..... but each time around you grow a little older, and a little wiser..... and you learn how to avoid this type of crap in the future so that things go better next time around, even if just by a little bit.
 
DaSleeper
#13
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

Recently, some weird things is troubling me. I wonder whether it is possible for someone who has access to my cell phone to install mobile spy software on the mobile phone to track my phone activity, so that he knows when and what I do. I suspect that my BF installed some mobile spy software on my phone, for he seems to know one of my male friend's name, which I've never mentioned to him before. Besides, several times, he spilled the beans and he even knew most of my activities that he should not know. He is familar with some mobile phone software as I know.
Can anyone give me some advice and tell me what I should do?

It all depends which company you have your phone with...two possibilities
1 Used to be you could have a secondnd phone with a cloned esn using the same account.

2 you have a web account to your phone service (I do with telus) and he hacked into it and is monitoring the numbers that you call and those that call you or if you don't have one he set one up in your name....check with your service provider. good luck
 
mariajones
#14
Hi ,
If your phone compatible then you can do this. But still facing the problem , unable to install and your phone supported to install , then you should have to go for service center .
 
mastercard8
-1
#15
My real issue is this!

You have a BF. You are seing others and presumably getting boned by some of them. You really dont want your BF to find out until u r ready replace him. He is checking up on you through your phone and u r feeling violated.

Let me tell you if both you and your BF are on the level you should not be worried, nor should he. But if you are getting boned elsewhere then he has every right to do anything to find you out. BTW and vice versa.
Last edited by mastercard8; Jul 30th, 2011 at 01:20 AM..Reason: spelling
 
TenPenny
#16
There's another solution.

Turn off your cell phone, then you can't be tracked.
Any calls you don't want him to find out about, use a payphone.

Wow, that was hard.
 
taxslave
#17
My understanding is that if your phone has a sim card you can be tracked. No sim card no tracking ability.
 
Stonera
#18
my girl friend suspects that I have an affair with some else, so she installed some mobile spy software on my iphone, just like the sms spy, I really don't like this thing, could you help me with removing the iphone spy on my mobile, thanks sooooooo much!
 
Ron in Regina
#19
If you aren't having an affair.....ditch the girlfriend...and then the
spy software doesn't matter, and the girlfriends issues become
her own problem, or the next guy who she needs to stalk.

If you are having an affair....then you should'a ditched the girlfriend
first anyway....so you're on your own on the spy software thing.
 
Cliffy
+1
#20
Didn't we have someone on here a month or so ago with the same problem?

Oh ya, here it is: http://forums.canadiancontent.net/mo...-help-pls.html
Same dude, same problem. What's up with that?
 
Kreskin
#21
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

my girl friend suspects that I have an affair with some else, so she installed some mobile spy software on my iphone, just like the sms spy, I really don't like this thing, could you help me with removing the iphone spy on my mobile, thanks sooooooo much!

You spent over a year trying to get spyware removed? A year ago it was your boyfriend who did it. Now it's your girlfriend. Come on buddy, get a life.
 
CDNBear
+1
#22
Same dude?

This one (Or the BF/GF) had a sex change between the OP and post #18.
 
Ron in Regina
+1
#23
Quote: Originally Posted by Cliffy View Post

Didn't we have someone on here a month or so ago with the same problem?

Oh ya, here it is: http://forums.canadiancontent.net/mo...-help-pls.html
Same dude, same problem. What's up with that?

Same person....merged the Threads....as it's really the same Thread
anyway.

Quote: Originally Posted by Kreskin View Post

You spent over a year trying to get spyware removed? A year ago it was your boyfriend who did it. Now it's your girlfriend. Come on buddy, get a life.

Stonera ....do you have a Boyfriend & a Girlfriend...and they've
"each" installed spy software on your phone?

Or is it that you have two phones, & each one installed this spy
software one of you phones?

Or is it that you had a Boyfriend that installed this spy software
on you phone....and now you have a Girlfriend that has also
installed this software on your phone?
 
Stonera
#24
thanks for your guys kindly advice, I will try to remove this mobile spy which is iphone spy and sms spy on my phone, if I couldn't, I will change anther one then explain to my girlfriend.
 
Spade
+2
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Recently, some weird thing is troubling me. I wonder whether it is possible for a family member who has access to our refrigerator to install mobile spy software on cheese slices to track my eating habits, so that the person knows when and what I eat. Whenever I take a cheese slice from the package to prepare a sandwich, the plastic wrap seems electostactically charged and adheres to my shirt. as a result it is obvious I have been snacking.

Can anyone give me some advice and tell me what I should do?
 
DurkaDurka
#26
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

thanks for your guys kindly advice, I will try to remove this mobile spy which is iphone spy and sms spy on my phone, if I couldn't, I will change anther one then explain to my girlfriend.

You are full of ****, the only way that sort of software could be installed is if the the OS was rooted, allowing R/W access to the file system. And if, a big if I might add. If your phone was somehow "compromised", you could do a restore with itunes, which would format the entire internal memory.

You fail
 
Cliffy
+1
#27
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

thanks for your guys kindly advice, I will try to remove this mobile spy which is iphone spy and sms spy on my phone, if I couldn't, I will change anther one then explain to my girlfriend.

Like I thought - a spammer.
 
DurkaDurka
#28
Quote: Originally Posted by Cliffy View Post

Like I thought - a spammer.

exactly, like some housewife would know the specific names of spyware that attacks IOS. Not to single out housewives, this could pertain to anyone.
 
spaminator
#29
so based on what i read, electronically tracking my harem of supermodel chicks is out of the question, right?
 
IdRatherBeSkiing
#30
Quote: Originally Posted by Stonera View Post

thanks for your guys kindly advice, I will try to remove this --link deleted-- which is --lin deleted-- and --link deleted-- on my phone, if I couldn't, I will change anther one then explain to my girlfriend.

One would almost think you were pedding those software to poor unsuspecting people on the internet.
 

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