They say you should value having sex for the first time. Thatís why Iím auctioning my virginity onlineóand the bidding is up to $3.8 million. When I put my virginity up for auction in September, it was in part a sociological experimentóI wanted to study the public's response. Now it seems that the tables have turned, and the public is studying me.
Iím a 22-year-old woman who recently earned her Bachelorís Degree in Womenís Studies, and soon Iíll be entering a Masters Degree program in Marriage and Family Therapy. During the time in between, in addition to my regular 9-to-5, Iíve been exploring my upcoming thesis project: the value of virginity. To be more specific, Iíve put my own virginity up for auction on the Moonlight Bunny Ranch website, and I recently received my highest bid so far: a cool $3.8 million.
I've been congratulated for my "entrepreneurial gumption," as one CEO of a Fortune 500 company put it.In addition to bids, however, Iíve also received an astonishing, sometimes unnerving, amount of media attention. Many of these reports have portrayed me inaccurately, however, so let me tell you what this is all about.
This all started long before September. In fact, it started in college, where my eyes were opened by my Womenís Studies professors and fellow classmates. I came to understand the role of "woman" spanning culture and time. At the university level, I was given permission to think differently and form a moral code of my own design. College opened my eyes.
Like most little girls, I was raised to believe that virginity is a sacred gift a woman should reserve for just the right man. But college taught me that this concept is just a tool to keep the status quo intact. Deflowering is historically oppressiveóearly European marriages began with a dowry, in which a father would sell his virginal daughter to the man whose family could offer the most agricultural wealth. Dads were basically their daughtersí pimps.
When I learned this, it became apparent to me that idealized virginity is just a tool to keep women in their place. But then I realized something else: if virginity is considered that valuable, whatís to stop me from benefiting from that? It is mine, after all. And the value of my chastity is one level on which men cannot compete with me. I decided to flip the equation, and turn my virginity into something that allows me to gain power and opportunity from men. I took the ancient notion that a womanís virginity is priceless and used it as a vehicle for capitalism.
Are you rolling your eyes? I knew this experiment would bring me condemnation. But I'm not saying every forward-thinking person has to agree with what Iím doing. You should develop your own personal belief systemóthatís exactly my point! For me, valuing virginity as sacred is simply not a concept I could embrace. But valuing virginity monetarilyónow thatís a concept I could definitely get behind. I no longer view the selling of sex as wrong or immoralómy time at college showed me that I had too blindly accepted such arbitrary norms. And for what itís worth, the winning bid wonít necessarily be the highestóI get to choose.
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