My 3 Year old Daughter


vinod1975
#1
My Little sweet lady all of sudden from last one week keep on crying every time whole days for no reason and when ever you ask here anything she would give different reasons all the time , she is my sweat heart does any one know how to improve upon
 
gerryh
#2
you'll have to ask sirjosephporter....he's the expert.
 
lone wolf
#3
Problems at home? Do you have a solid relationship? Without knowing, it's hard to say.
 
vinod1975
#4
Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf View Post

Problems at home? Do you have a solid relationship? Without knowing, it's hard to say.

Yes some time I fight with my wife since after whole day in office I feel little low so it just happens but thats very small and only one of the occasion in a months time. We just came from India and made our base in Jakarta - Indonesia and its been one year in Indonesia , she has many good friends she plays regularly with them but one thing I noted yesterday she cries more when she see me
 
lone wolf
#5
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

Yes some time I fight with my wife since after whole day in office I feel little low so it just happens but thats very small and only one of the occasion in a months time. We just came from India and made our base in Jakarta - Indonesia and its been one year in Indonesia , she has many good friends she plays regularly with them but one thing I noted yesterday she cries more when she see me

Children cue in on tension fast - and they almost always think they're the reason if their parents fight. Do you let her feel that you love her? Do you fight in front of her? Don't feel shamed to ask for help if there is a problem because it can be too late too fast.
 
vinod1975
#6
Quote: Originally Posted by lone wolf View Post

Children cue in on tension fast - and they almost always think they're the reason if their parents fight. Do you let her feel that you love her? Do you fight in front of her? Don't feel shamed to ask for help if there is a problem because it can be too late too fast.

Yes its a very small house and it happens in front of her only , I always wish her in morning , after noon and night and always says her that I LOVE YOU and she replies the same to me
 
Mowich
#7
Have you talked to her, vinod?
 
vinod1975
#8
Quote: Originally Posted by Mowich View Post

Have you talked to her, vinod?

Every time I talk when ever she is with me and I try to make her happy by buying what ever she puts her finger on as per my pocket some time I go beyond my pocket just to make her happy , she is darling to me ....... sorry just got tears in my eyes . She always says that Papa I love you and then starts crying , Doctors no help
 
vinod1975
#9
To add here She loves to play and dance and I always encourage her and help her in what ever way I can
 
lone wolf
#10
You said you fight with your wife in front of her. First, that is the worst thing you can do. Second, how IS your relationship with your wife. We guys are always the last ones to know if she's planning on leaving. Your daughter may have overheard her mother speaking with friends and family. It's just my opinion, but you might ask about some family counselling. My impression is there are some serious family troubles.
 
vinod1975
#11
True I am going to change that ( I know cant be done over night) for her and separation is impossible as we have not even reach to lowest level of same
 
talloola
#12
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

My Little sweet lady all of sudden from last one week keep on crying every time whole days for no reason and when ever you ask here anything she would give different reasons all the time , she is my sweat heart does any one know how to improve upon

This is very difficult, I'll give a try. If there is nothing physically wrong with her, it seems she might be
worried or afraid of something, maybe a very bad dream,
or something that happened, which she witnessed, and can't
forget about.
 
vinod1975
#13
Quote: Originally Posted by talloola View Post

This is very difficult, I'll give a try. If there is nothing physically wrong with her, it seems she might be
worried or afraid of something, maybe a very bad dream,
or something that happened, which she witnessed, and can't
forget about.

That would be gr8 help
 
vinod1975
#14
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

That would be gr8 help

May be you are right about bad dream as she talks to some one while sleeping and even fights also and some time just laugh
 
vinod1975
#15
Quote: Originally Posted by talloola View Post

This is very difficult, I'll give a try. If there is nothing physically wrong with her, it seems she might be
worried or afraid of something, maybe a very bad dream,
or something that happened, which she witnessed, and can't
forget about.

I am waiting for and just to add we just been to Malaysia on holiday for 3 days and I thinks its just little better I would say about 2 -5 % improvement
 
bobnoorduyn
#16
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

Yes some time I fight with my wife since after whole day in office I feel little low so it just happens but thats very small and only one of the occasion in a months time. We just came from India and made our base in Jakarta - Indonesia and its been one year in Indonesia , she has many good friends she plays regularly with them but one thing I noted yesterday she cries more when she see me

I would guess you are from India, and that would be home? Is that the same for your wife? Any move that takes you away from family, friends, and in your case, probably cultue, is likely to cause some stress. In fact it can cause a lot of stress. I have moved several times and know this from personal experience. You may not even notice the effect stress has on your relationship and how it affects children, I know I didn't, but work took me away from home for for half of each month. The stress can be cumulative as well, I ended up with some very serious health problems which made me change my work habits. After our last move my health got even worse and I had to take an extended leave, I would almost call it retirement. It wasn't until then that I got to actually know my children and find out how everything had affected them, they were already well into their teens. I am grateful for the time I was able to spend with them but it took years for things to settle down.

I wish I could offer you a solution, but I don't really even know if this is part of your problem, and even if it were, I still can't be sure I could offer a way to fix it. But knowing what is causing problems is half the battle and can make for ways to fix things sooner rather than later. Some people find out too late, I'm just glad I didn't.
 
bobnoorduyn
#17
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

Every time I talk when ever she is with me and I try to make her happy by buying what ever she puts her finger on as per my pocket some time I go beyond my pocket just to make her happy , she is darling to me ....... sorry just got tears in my eyes . She always says that Papa I love you and then starts crying , Doctors no help

Buying her things is not a good idea, we tried that too. It starts to become a habit and children will eventually never be satisfied. I might add that insecurity is a big issue with them. You may be secure in your job, your home, but children have to feel secure too. They are fragile little beings and need constant reassurance. You didn't say whether you have extended family close by, but I would guess you don't, so the most important people in her life are you and her mother. When you go to work half of all her security is gone for the day. Just time together ccan be a great help, family time, not time filled with children's activities, though they need that too, but it can be a diversion for times when you're not home so she doesn't have so much time to miss you.
 
VanIsle
#18
"Things" are not what children need. She has probably heard her Mom discussing her un-happiness which may or may not stem from your move. My own son just went through a marriage break-up. He was completely clueless to the fact that his wife had been in a one year relationship with another man. Now, I am not suggesting your wife is in a relationship. She may however, be talking on the phone regarding un-happiness regarding where you now live. Loneliness is powerful and your wife may cry in your absence which may be making your daughter very sad because your wife may be blaming the move on you. If you made the move without her complete approval then - you are to blame. I know about this as I had to move many times in my life and I hated many of the moves. It's not fun to move away from friends and start again over and over. I believe you stated that at some point you intend to move to Canada. She knows the moving is not over and she may feel she has had all the moves she can take. In this country, it is not common for wives to be submissive and a man who controls his wife is frowned upon. I am not saying you control your wife but if your life is "all about you" then you do control her and she is not happy. Make your wife happy and you will have a happy child.
 
vinod1975
#19
Quote: Originally Posted by VanIsle View Post

" I am not saying you control your wife but if your life is "all about you" then you do control her and she is not happy. Make your wife happy and you will have a happy child.

Thanks everybody for so much good advise but I think things started moving to right direction now
 
vinod1975
#20
Quote: Originally Posted by vinod1975 View Post

Thanks everybody for so much good advise but I think things started moving to right direction now

This has improved a lot lot lot lot may be by 25%
 

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