Knows Too Much
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Location: Backwater, Ontario.
Location: Backwater, Ontario.
May 7th, 2008, 10:27 AM
After spending "much time around farms".............this genius dickhead still failed to realise that COWS are FEMALE
Good luck with the next serial killer there, Sherlock.
http://lifestyle.sympatico.msn.ca/Wa...abc&date=False
After spending "much time around farms".............this genius dickhead still failed to realise that COWS are FEMALE
Good luck with the next serial killer there, Sherlock.
http://lifestyle.sympatico.msn.ca/Wa...abc&date=False
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Posts: 2,949
Location: Atlantic Canada
Location: Atlantic Canada
May 7th, 2008, 12:35 PM
Yes I know they're trying to explain a change in normal pattern, but we all get into routines and changing the routine after a while is not enough of a basis to start assuming she's cheating on you......
• Hairstyle and Clothes changed? It's called staying up to date in fashion trends.... something most guys wouldn't understand.
• More concerned with hygiene and fitness? Well over the years we all start to lose our youthfull looks and if we want to keep them, we have to step up how much we work our bodies..... or face sagging and wrinkles sooner then later.
• Prolonged Absences? Well if she doesn't have a logical explination for that then you might have something to worry about..... either that or she's getting older and losing her memory / taking longer to do things.
• Less interested in Sex? That happens in every..... every relationship eventually and one has to spice things up or find new ways to keep it interesting as opposed to just keeping with the same routine and same two positions..... not evidence of cheating.
You also have to considder if the other man is actually stupid enough to send cards to her at work, or anywhere else for that matter when it is very known you are married to someone else, adding evidence to her actually cheating and increasing chances of her getting caught.
Chances are more then not that she'll first ask the guy she's cheating on you with and then bring it up to you regardless.
Let me get this straight:
• Send her one of two identical cards to her work.
• Then place the second identical card on a table at home after hours which will be the location in which you confront her about the cheating.
Before I go any further, what happened to the first card? Did she discard it or did she keep it?
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Therefore if she discarded the card to cover her tracks and then sees you at home with an identical card in which she already discarded and then you ask her if she's been cheating, it's already apparent to her that you tried to set her up and therefore she not only can deny the whole situation with ease, but she can also turn the whole situation on you setting her up in the first place and not trusting her, then wants a divorce and then takes half your sh*t..... great plan genius!
Backing up a bit:
• You then confront her and ask her if she's having an afair and are supposed to monitor her for any of the above actions or comments of denial and lying.
WTF..... if your boyfriend or girlfriend accuses you of cheating on them, regardless if you did or didn't, the accusation alone will always cause a delay and a pause.
~ If you're guilty then you probably will do the above.
~ If your innocent, you then become shocked that your boyfriend/girlfriend accused you of such a thing, doesn't trust you, and thus you will still probably do the above.
Seriously.... if it's this bad that you gotta make a trap such as the above, just divorce and get it over with and save yourself the time, because either way you approach the above with whatever tactic, the marriage is probably screwed anyways.
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You're telling me..... I see weakness in someone's education above. "I always wondered how cows got out of those barbed-wire fences," he recounts. "But then I realized what a cow does all day. He stands around chewing his cud and looking at the fence. Eventually, if you look at something long enough, you see weakness. Trouble is, most people don't spend much time looking."
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Um... is she not supposed to take care of herself and do nice things to make her feel better about herself? No wonder why she might be cheating. "Find out if she's cheating
You have a creeping suspicion she's seeing some creep. Here's how to conduct an interview that'll make her divulge the truth.
Work from a "zero behavioral baseline," advises Mark Safarik, a 23-year veteran of the Bureau who now runs FBSI, a Virginia-based company dedicated to crime-scene analysis and threat assessment. In other words, look for sudden deviations in her usual conduct: a new hairstyle and clothes, more concern with hygiene and fitness, prolonged absences, less interest in sex.
You have a creeping suspicion she's seeing some creep. Here's how to conduct an interview that'll make her divulge the truth.
Work from a "zero behavioral baseline," advises Mark Safarik, a 23-year veteran of the Bureau who now runs FBSI, a Virginia-based company dedicated to crime-scene analysis and threat assessment. In other words, look for sudden deviations in her usual conduct: a new hairstyle and clothes, more concern with hygiene and fitness, prolonged absences, less interest in sex.
Yes I know they're trying to explain a change in normal pattern, but we all get into routines and changing the routine after a while is not enough of a basis to start assuming she's cheating on you......
• Hairstyle and Clothes changed? It's called staying up to date in fashion trends.... something most guys wouldn't understand.
• More concerned with hygiene and fitness? Well over the years we all start to lose our youthfull looks and if we want to keep them, we have to step up how much we work our bodies..... or face sagging and wrinkles sooner then later.
• Prolonged Absences? Well if she doesn't have a logical explination for that then you might have something to worry about..... either that or she's getting older and losing her memory / taking longer to do things.
• Less interested in Sex? That happens in every..... every relationship eventually and one has to spice things up or find new ways to keep it interesting as opposed to just keeping with the same routine and same two positions..... not evidence of cheating.
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Not a sure fire method as even a woman who is cheating might ask if it was you who sent it and start a third approach of some trivial no name sending them to her from work and making it sound further that she is innocent in the whole matter. If enough signs exist, set a trap. Buy two romantic cards that are exactly the same. Send one to her at work, unsigned. If she's having an affair, she won't mention it, because she won't know who sent it.
You also have to considder if the other man is actually stupid enough to send cards to her at work, or anywhere else for that matter when it is very known you are married to someone else, adding evidence to her actually cheating and increasing chances of her getting caught.
Chances are more then not that she'll first ask the guy she's cheating on you with and then bring it up to you regardless.
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WTF is this guy smoking? Now "play" the second card. Tell her you need to talk. "Make sure it's after dark," says Douglas, "because it'll make her feel more relaxed." Sit at a table on which you previously placed the second card. Don't make it too obvious, but be sure she notices it.
This is called "introducing a stressor."
Don't confront her with the card. Instead, look in her eyes and ask, "Are you having an affair?" Study what she does next. If she repeats the question, drops her eyes, looks away, folds her arms, licks her lips, crosses her legs, or picks some invisible lint off her clothing, she's stalling and is probably guilty. It's time to go in stronger.
Ask the question again, this time glancing at the card but still not fully acknowledging it. If she truly has something to hide, she'll become increasingly agitated.
Finally, to spark a confession, provide what FBI interrogators call a "face-saving scenario." Say this: "I know we've been having problems, and I don't blame you if you did this, but I just want the truth." "If she's being perceived as a victim," says Douglas, who has used this technique to crack many criminals, "she'll be more likely to talk."
Don't be misled by... her denials. "I've had people pass polygraph tests and still turn out to be lying," says Douglas. "Those with a history of lying, like O.J. and Bill Clinton, are good at it. Other people besides criminals are chronic liars. Don't make the mistake of thinking everyone is honest."
This is called "introducing a stressor."
Don't confront her with the card. Instead, look in her eyes and ask, "Are you having an affair?" Study what she does next. If she repeats the question, drops her eyes, looks away, folds her arms, licks her lips, crosses her legs, or picks some invisible lint off her clothing, she's stalling and is probably guilty. It's time to go in stronger.
Ask the question again, this time glancing at the card but still not fully acknowledging it. If she truly has something to hide, she'll become increasingly agitated.
Finally, to spark a confession, provide what FBI interrogators call a "face-saving scenario." Say this: "I know we've been having problems, and I don't blame you if you did this, but I just want the truth." "If she's being perceived as a victim," says Douglas, who has used this technique to crack many criminals, "she'll be more likely to talk."
Don't be misled by... her denials. "I've had people pass polygraph tests and still turn out to be lying," says Douglas. "Those with a history of lying, like O.J. and Bill Clinton, are good at it. Other people besides criminals are chronic liars. Don't make the mistake of thinking everyone is honest."
Let me get this straight:
• Send her one of two identical cards to her work.
• Then place the second identical card on a table at home after hours which will be the location in which you confront her about the cheating.
Before I go any further, what happened to the first card? Did she discard it or did she keep it?
Unknown:
Therefore if she discarded the card to cover her tracks and then sees you at home with an identical card in which she already discarded and then you ask her if she's been cheating, it's already apparent to her that you tried to set her up and therefore she not only can deny the whole situation with ease, but she can also turn the whole situation on you setting her up in the first place and not trusting her, then wants a divorce and then takes half your sh*t..... great plan genius!
Backing up a bit:
• You then confront her and ask her if she's having an afair and are supposed to monitor her for any of the above actions or comments of denial and lying.
WTF..... if your boyfriend or girlfriend accuses you of cheating on them, regardless if you did or didn't, the accusation alone will always cause a delay and a pause.
~ If you're guilty then you probably will do the above.
~ If your innocent, you then become shocked that your boyfriend/girlfriend accused you of such a thing, doesn't trust you, and thus you will still probably do the above.
Seriously.... if it's this bad that you gotta make a trap such as the above, just divorce and get it over with and save yourself the time, because either way you approach the above with whatever tactic, the marriage is probably screwed anyways.
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Location: Atlantic Canada
Location: Atlantic Canada
May 7th, 2008, 01:01 PM
Let's play this game some more shall we?
Many here where I work will do one or the other depending on the time of day or time of week.
• Are other employees being loud or is their work causing you to lose concentration?
• Is it the winter time and everybody seems to want the place one temprature or another? (This occurs in my workplace where some people enjoy it ice damn cold, while I like it warm.... to maintain this, we close our doors and adjust our room tempratures to suit.)
• If the chair is lower then your own, chances are you got the cheap seat that clients and guests use, which doesn't usually have to be all that fancy or designed for long term comfort, where as the boss is there day in and day out on the same chair all the time..... I think him having a slightly better or higher chair is no grounds for determining if the guys a jerk.
• Doesn't rise to greet you? You might have something there, but then again, maybe the guys' crippled in some medical way where arthritis shoots up the back of his knees and his back the more he moves around.
Should someone be punished for hanging their diplomas and sucesses in their offices? Would it make more sense if they just left them hiding in the closet back home to collect dust? (Perhaps another sign of another mental problem)
I don't personally have any diplomas or credentials loaded all over my walls at work, I couldn't care less, but that doesn't mean I'm going to think another person's a selfish jerk wad for doing so.
Then again, maybe the guy actually did love his family and was proud of them.... only to have his wife cheat on him as described above, he called her on it based on the above suggestions of this guy, and is now divorced due to his own suggestions.... and thus now can be filed under this category of not caring about his family (When it was the wife who screwed it all up in the first place) ~ Great generalization buddy.... he should work for the CIA on those Iranian Nuclear reactors, because his assumptions are so dead on it would seem.
What a tool.... sure some of these tactics may work on those who are guilty in an actual crime, but you can not approach every single person or every single situation as a crime, or a criminal and always assume someone is guilty of something against you before they even did something.... you'll end up one lonely and paranoid loser..... then again, you might have a position in the FBI then.
Let's play this game some more shall we?
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Yes, because everybody is out to get you all the time.... See if your potential boss is a psycho
The company is booming and the benefits package is great, but will you really enjoy working for the guy behind the desk?
Case the company as you would a crime scene.......
The company is booming and the benefits package is great, but will you really enjoy working for the guy behind the desk?
Case the company as you would a crime scene.......
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This has nothing to do with looking at it like a crime scene, if you don't look a little bit into how the company operates and what its goals are, that's your own stupidity and you're setting yourself up for a failure, nobody else.... this is just common sense.
.... How is it organized? What's its mission? What's the competition? "It's a no-lose effort," says Douglas. "The knowledge you acquire will positively shape the interview."
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Right....
When you arrive, notice if the boss's door is open or closed. If it and others are shut, it's a tense work atmosphere.
Many here where I work will do one or the other depending on the time of day or time of week.• Are other employees being loud or is their work causing you to lose concentration?
• Is it the winter time and everybody seems to want the place one temprature or another? (This occurs in my workplace where some people enjoy it ice damn cold, while I like it warm.... to maintain this, we close our doors and adjust our room tempratures to suit.)
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• Keeps you waiting could mean the company is not good with time management, or you just came on a busy day.
Be on the lookout for superiority cues (he keeps you waiting, he doesn't rise to greet you, your chair is set lower than his). Sure, he's the boss, but he doesn't have to rub it in.
• If the chair is lower then your own, chances are you got the cheap seat that clients and guests use, which doesn't usually have to be all that fancy or designed for long term comfort, where as the boss is there day in and day out on the same chair all the time..... I think him having a slightly better or higher chair is no grounds for determining if the guys a jerk.
• Doesn't rise to greet you? You might have something there, but then again, maybe the guys' crippled in some medical way where arthritis shoots up the back of his knees and his back the more he moves around.
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That's also a load of bullsh*t, considdering how many of our parents/husbands/wives have told us to hang our acomplishments in our offices? How many places tell you it's a good idea to display your credentials so that clients know that who they are talking to actually knows something? Doctors, Lawyers, Therapists, artists.... frig just about any profession that you take 2ndary you get a diploma or degree and most would expect you to put those up in the job you are working which is in that profession.
Look for the "Love-Me Wall" covered with diplomas, awards, and autographed celebrity photos. Robert Ressler, a 20-year FBI man who coined the term "serial killer," says it's basically a shrine that screams, "It's all about me." And if it's about him, that means it won't be about your needs or success.
Should someone be punished for hanging their diplomas and sucesses in their offices? Would it make more sense if they just left them hiding in the closet back home to collect dust? (Perhaps another sign of another mental problem)
I don't personally have any diplomas or credentials loaded all over my walls at work, I couldn't care less, but that doesn't mean I'm going to think another person's a selfish jerk wad for doing so.
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DEeeerrrrrrr....... You don't need to be some FBI super profile expert to figure this one out.
Most important, ask yourself a few questions. Does he give me his full attention during an interview? Does he push aside the demands of the day, stop glancing at e-mail, and listen? If he does now, he'll do the same later.
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Oh well then, excuse them for not being as perfect as you.... cripes, I guess that means every guy who has a photo on his desk must hate his family and just itching for a divorce.
Don't be misled by... family photos. "They don't mean anything," says Douglas. "I've seen pictures on desks of men with their wives, and they're divorced the next week.
Then again, maybe the guy actually did love his family and was proud of them.... only to have his wife cheat on him as described above, he called her on it based on the above suggestions of this guy, and is now divorced due to his own suggestions.... and thus now can be filed under this category of not caring about his family (When it was the wife who screwed it all up in the first place) ~ Great generalization buddy.... he should work for the CIA on those Iranian Nuclear reactors, because his assumptions are so dead on it would seem.
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And sometimes he might actually care and is proud of his family.
Sometimes it means he's trying to impress everyone by showing he's a family man. This is called 'staging the office.' He's trying to project something he's not."
What a tool.... sure some of these tactics may work on those who are guilty in an actual crime, but you can not approach every single person or every single situation as a crime, or a criminal and always assume someone is guilty of something against you before they even did something.... you'll end up one lonely and paranoid loser..... then again, you might have a position in the FBI then.
May 10th, 2008, 01:19 AM
"Should someone be punished for hanging their diplomas and sucesses in their offices? Would it make more sense if they just left them hiding in the closet back home to collect dust? (Perhaps another sign of another mental problem)"
I keep mine in a box in the basement, really
"Should someone be punished for hanging their diplomas and sucesses in their offices? Would it make more sense if they just left them hiding in the closet back home to collect dust? (Perhaps another sign of another mental problem)"
I keep mine in a box in the basement, really
