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Grandfather writes passionate letter in gay grandson’s defence (against his own daughter)

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Grandfather writes passionate letter in gay grandson’s defence (against his own daughter) - The Globe and Mail

The bluntly beautiful letter first appeared this week on the Facebook page of FCKH8.com. Speaking with wisdom that usually comes only with age, the unnamed grandfather tells his daughter, named Christine: “You’re correct that we have a ‘shame in the family’ but mistaken about what it is.”


He continues: “Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature.’ ”

Whether knowingly or not, the grandfather gives a nod to Lady Gaga in his defense of his grandson: “He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than he being left-handed.”

And because grandparents usually know how to hit just the right nerve, the old boy delivers the kicker:

“So, while we are in the business of abandoning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.”

Since being posted on Monday, the letter has generated more than 8,000 likes and 3,000 comments overwhelmingly in support of the grandfather’s comments.

“Bestest gramps ever!!! He wins the Internet,” wrote Megan Woodcock Keegan. From Lauren Moose Boland: “Go Grandpa!!!! I swear our parents’ parents were more open-minded than our parents.”
 

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A sad story if its true, but I still like the letter. He didnt cut her off completely in it. He left it open for her to reconsider - though in a backhanded way. Personally i wouldnt want anything to do with someone who threw an underaged kid out on the streets - family or not. Especially not for the reason she did it.
 

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A sad story if its true, but I still like the letter. He didnt cut her off completely in it. He left it open for her to reconsider - though in a backhanded way. Personally i wouldnt want anything to do with someone who threw an underaged kid out on the streets - family or not. Especially not for the reason she did it.
Families can be driven apart for a variety of reasons, some can be over minor things that grow out of proportion.
Or something as large as this is for the son
The door to bringing the family back together should be kept open.
Everyone loses on a family split.
 

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Families can be driven apart for a variety of reasons, some can be over minor things that grow out of proportion.
Or something as large as this is for the son
The door to bringing the family back together should be kept open.
Everyone loses on a family split.

Sometimes you do need to cut away dead wood though. Carrying a negative force simply because of blood ties is not always the best option for everyone's health and harmony.
 

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Sometimes you do need to cut away dead wood though. Carrying a negative force simply because of blood ties is not always the best option for everyone's health and harmony.
I agree, but it depends upon the circumstances.
I have seen families split over 1 getting a divorce to monies lent and then over pure stupidity.
 

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I agree, but it depends upon the circumstances.
I have seen families split over 1 getting a divorce to monies lent and then over pure stupidity.

Sure if it's stupid and superficial, I'd agree. But something as serious as disowning a child....you have to be some kind of heartless to do that. I have a hard time imagining that a mother who would do ever brought much joy to anyone's life.
 

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Turning one's back on a family member is never easy, often heart-breaking and brings sadness to everyone, no matter the reason.
 

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Most of these things come from emotion not reason or a false belief system.
I remember years ago having a dispute with a cousin. It was about thirty years
ago. She contacted me when her brother died. The stupid part of it was
neither of us was clear as to what started it all in the first place.
These disputes often affect other family members as well and are best never
entered into.
Religion often is the source of affliction and its unfortunate.
 

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Turning one's back on a family member is never easy, often heart-breaking and brings sadness to everyone, no matter the reason.

It can sometimes take years or decades for the person turning their back to realize that. It took my father about fifteen years. Too late. I dont hold any sort of grudge or anything against him for leaving. I have my life, he has his and our paths seldom cross.
 

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Families can be driven apart for a variety of reasons, some can be over minor things that grow out of proportion.
Or something as large as this is for the son
The door to bringing the family back together should be kept open.
Everyone loses on a family split.
Hate to say it, but not always. Sometimes a split is the healthiest way for people to move forward. Family can't be chosen but can be escaped and sometimes should be and without guilt.

Sometimes you do need to cut away dead wood though. Carrying a negative force simply because of blood ties is not always the best option for everyone's health and harmony.
yeah hadn't reached your post yet before saying much the same. totally agree
 

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Hate to say it, but not always. Sometimes a split is the healthiest way for people to move forward. Family can't be chosen but can be escaped and sometimes should be and without guilt.


yeah hadn't reached your post yet before saying much the same. totally agree
At times it is the only possible decision.
Regardless, cutting all ties does leave an emotional mark. People just do not see it in themselves.
 

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It can sometimes take years or decades for the person turning their back to realize that. It took my father about fifteen years. Too late. I dont hold any sort of grudge or anything against him for leaving. I have my life, he has his and our paths seldom cross.
too bad for him, he is missing out big time
 

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I am sure most of us are familiar with people where families have split over idiocy.
 

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Sometimes you do need to cut away dead wood though. Carrying a negative force simply because of blood ties is not always the best option for everyone's health and harmony.
Yep. Why should one endure an unpleasant or destructive person one would otherwise have nothing to do with merely because that person is related?