The single most difficult task i had as a parent was to accept the consequences of saying no to children, and depending on the age, proving my position. Those consequences being the normal resentment they will carry, often until until they mature.
Teaching begins at age zero so if a parent finally says no at age, pick one, 3,4, 5,.....10,11, they have already lost and failed the child.
Even worse if they use the child as a proxy for their own desperation for recognition.
My daughters thanked me sincerely by the time they were late teens but in the interim i took a lot of heat. I raised children, i did not get towed along with them. Yes i was a single Dad for most of their formative years, it was the best and worst time of my life. The past several years i have been pleased to be consulted regarding the antics of my teenage grand daughters. My advice is given sparingly, more like, you know what to do my dear daughter, but broken with the occasional "how do you like me now?"
IMO, pole dancing is irrevocably tied to sex in the real world and any child over about age 10 ish knows this. Not so gymnastics.