I can't think of 10 stupid things I've done. I'm sure I've done far more than 10 stupid things in my life, but one of them was so massively stupid and did so much damage, all the rest of them fade into background noise by comparison. I married the wrong person first time around, and in retrospect I can see that all the signs were there that this was a mistake, but I was so besotted I ignored them completely. That was 37 years ago, and I still don't understand how I could have let myself get tricked so badly. 18 months into that marriage there was a sudden unilateral policy announcement that there would never be any children. I have five siblings, I grew up in a large and happy family, I couldn't imagine never being anyone's dad. That's one of those Kodak moments engraved on my memory with photographic clarity, I can still see the scene perfectly in my mind, and I remember thinking, "If that's true, we're not going to make it." It was, and we didn't, though the breakdown took another 3 years. But what the Hell was there about that woman that so besotted me and clouded my judgment? I have no clue. I still like her and care about her, but we should have been friends, never lovers. That didn't work at all.
What a shock, wonder why you never discussed it before the marriage, but then, neither did we, and it was my husband who mentioned that we should start a
family, and that was the first time I gave it any thought, (how stupid), I didn't
have any interest in having babies, I didn't even like babies/children, thought
they were annoying little creatures. BUT, when he said 'that', I looked at him
and said," really?" (how stupid again), "OK then, if you really want to"., went
on to have four daughters, and being a mother came so easy to me, I loved every
minute of it. Go figure.
Yes, it does. I'm not familiar with the song, but I found the lyrics on line. Thanks for that, it was a kind thought.
I've also decided that the other 9 of the 10 stupidest things I've done almost certainly all happened in the years between the end of that first marriage and the beginning of the one that worked. But I'm not going to list them. I try not to think about them, though there are a couple of people I'd like to find and apologize to for the way I treated them. I think I was out of my mind for a while with grief and outrage, and took some of it out on innocents who had nothing to do with it.
Dex ... there's an easy way to put it in perspective. Utube doesn't have a video and I have no way of downloading from my C drive to here (next best to computer illiterate) but if you can find Daren Norwood and If It Wasn't For Her I Wouldn't Have You it speaks volumes
Ah, thank you, another kind thought. Must be the season or something... And you're right, I really have no grounds for complaint, life's been pretty good on balance, and I think a life without regrets isn't really possible unless you deliberately avoid all possible experiences. But that in itself should be cause for regret. A person who's never made a mistake has never done anything.