Quote: Originally Posted by karrie
Often caring about a group in general starts to cause stagnation.
If Dex was my father, you my uncle, Zan my mother, LGilbert my brother, and Imp my sister.... you wouldn't get a single hard view from me. I would never tell you, as a group, my firm opinion on anything. Because I would care too much about the health of the group to cause discord and imply insult.
I would resume my life as I am here in the real world... the eternal fence sitter, willing to hear opinions but not give them.
*pulls Karries hair*
When I was reading this, I flashed back to when I was about 12 yo. I was living with a big family, Richard, his wife, 3 boy and 2 girls and his mother and her husband lived there. There was never a dull moment.
Every friday night we would gather in the living room and air our grievances. The first time it ever happen I went and hide behind the couch, peeking out to watch it go down. It was some serious outing, started out talking, went to yelling then usually ended in laughter and this very weird peace between everyone.
It was healthy how they dealed with their problems. Sometimes it was with each other, other time it was a problem one of them was facing and asked everyones opinion. Needless to say they hardly ever matched, lol, so the asker was confused most the time and but manages to get a piece of advice to run with and work it.
It took me a long time to feel like I fit in enough to be able to voice my thoughts or ask my questions.
I was always the silent child mind you, never wasted words but listened and watched others carefully.I never thought what I had to say would matter so why bother. Some people were surprised when I spoke, they thought I was mute.
Anyway, One day they all looked at me and I was in the hot seat. I had alot to say to each of them that I was holding in.
It was a looong night,lol, but after I unleashed and put it all out there, it was very freeing.
One of the most valuable lessons I learned that night was that I had every right just like them, to voice my opinion and be heard, and the time to work it out the best it could be. Then after that, if there was anymore problems, it wasn't mine but who's ever decided to make it theirs.
You too, are just as important as any one else and have the right to let your voice be heard. Your thoughts and voice just might change an issue that needs changed, your words may be the deciding factor.
Never silence yourself.