I seem to have a problem. I do what feels right and it bites me in the butt.
Not long ago I told a friend what I thought she needed to hear. We are no longer friends.
Just before that I befriended someone in the hopes of gaining information to turn on him regarding a legal battle another friend was planning. Over the course of time this person I befriended became a real friend, thus hurting my original friend.
I wouldnt do anything different in either case. I did what I thought (and still think) is right.
But it sure makes me feel lousy for the pain it caused.
Ive made all the explainations and apologies I feel are apropriate and I know I won't get those lost friendships back. I'm ok with that really, as Im not someone who likes having close friends. But I do feel bad for the pain I caused. I don't like hurting other people.
So how do I learn to just keep my mouth shut and stay out of things?
Not long ago I told a friend what I thought she needed to hear. We are no longer friends.
Just before that I befriended someone in the hopes of gaining information to turn on him regarding a legal battle another friend was planning. Over the course of time this person I befriended became a real friend, thus hurting my original friend.
I wouldnt do anything different in either case. I did what I thought (and still think) is right.
But it sure makes me feel lousy for the pain it caused.
Ive made all the explainations and apologies I feel are apropriate and I know I won't get those lost friendships back. I'm ok with that really, as Im not someone who likes having close friends. But I do feel bad for the pain I caused. I don't like hurting other people.
So how do I learn to just keep my mouth shut and stay out of things?