This may be a little too medical, but it's a good site
www.femalepatient.com/html/ar.../article03.asp (external - login to view)
I'm just surprised they would have used forceps if the labor wasn't obstructed unless they was some emergency for the baby. Usually when I've worked forceps weren't even really considered until at least 1+hour of pushing or if an emergency was present (and then c-sections were usually prefered).
Unfortunately, most "female problems" have long been either ignored or minimized by the medical profession. I'm sorry you had such a frustrating experience. There is no reason that fistulas should be ignored by docs or patients. They are treatable. We've just gotten so good at reducing maternal complications that often we aren't well practiced in treating them. Frankly, I'm not a huge fan of GPs doing OB/GYN care because they have little to training in dealing with the complications. Even a lot of OB/GYNs are undertrained about fistulas and their repair unfortunately, but in my experience they are better than GPs. I hope you feel good about your current surgeon.
This is another site I think is good, although a little technical
www.emedicine.com/med/topic2745.htm (external - login to view)