Well, I gotta side with Jay on this one ... no one disputes spousal abuse is a heinous act, but the letter is one designed to elicite a knee-jerk reaction. I see this kind of thing often in my Jack Russell forum ... people posting letters from abused animal perspectives.
Glad you didn't label it feminist, tho, Jay ... wouldda had to arm wrestle you on that one. I am a feminist, but that it doesn't necessarily follow that I'm given to emotional propaganda.
Somehow the ploy of attempting to tug my heartstrings only annoys me and, in my view, reduces the issue to theatre. Education, legal reform, and, above all, assistance to the victims of spousal abuse are what is needed. Social awareness of the subject has come light years the past decade and for that I am grateful. Admitting it is going on is essential to stopping it.
This is not an exercise in theory for me ... I once lived with a man (back in the days before I discovered which team I really play for!) that beat me regularly. And effectively ... to the point of putting me in the hospital once. The way I got out of it was by spending a lot of long hours in a counsellor's office until I acquired the necessary self esteem and sense of value to step away.
While abuse is NOT the victim's fault, the solution does lie in strengthening the psche of the victim to the point where they can defend themselves.
I admit I'm I am less than sympathetic to the abuser, but have become somewhat more educated on the subject. One of my dear friends is a therapist who deals with abusers and her education has been helpful to me in being a little less judgemental and emotional about the subject. I think those are key in finding any kind of truly effective solution ... when emotions run high, logic flies out the window. Letters like that target emotion and, as such, do more harm than good, IMHO.