To me, this is a secret place. It isn't a secret because there is anything shameful in it--on the contrary, it's goodness is an exception to the rule on the internet. In my experience, it is like a thing that defies the laws of nature, by hanging in midair, apparently without support. The law of averages says that inevitably such exceptions will occur, like the occurence of rare gems. Gems are rare, and therefore precious. You wouldn't share it with just anyone. My friend would very likely appreciate this site, but I feel I'd be sacrificing a degree of the liberty I enjoy here; that I would be inhibited in my participation. Does anyone else feel this way? Should it be left to chance, who comes here? Each of us, finally, must decide for himself; I'm not suggesting any kind of rule.