#1Mar 7th, 2013
"Pervert!!!" That's the usual epithet tossed our way usually with an equal mix of rejection, disgust and anger all in one. Just what is perversion but that which is "not normal" or acceptable by society in general, it is therefore a deviation from the norm and hence unusual and therefore frequently not understood, "strange and 'unnatural' " or unusual. But that we are misunderstood and though our desires are not generally held and not for everybody does not make them wrong or sinful. Clothing is clothing. What we find erotic or stimulating and exciting sexually is as individual as a fingerprint (though most of us fall within the normal sexual activities for who we happen to be (Whips and chains are not part of our norm just as it is not part of your norm as society in general). There is nothing to fear from us. This does not make us bad people, immoral, or law breakers. This does not make us harmful to anyone. We are not sexual predators, molesters of children, or rapists, or murderers because men who have a feminine streak or side are none of these. There are such people and they are rightly labeled as criminals who should not be allowed to roam free in society. Society though is slow to change and resists us because they want to perpetuate the "acceptable norm" society does not want the idea spread to others, or to children who are growing up that there is nothing wrong with someone who wants to wear or be what is not generally understood or accepted. We are just born this way (who would choose this? we cannot help who we are). We are normal people with normal desires for who we happen to be from moment to moment. Sure we hide because we know society in general does not understand how this can be, and our very lives can be endangered simply for being who we are. Our numbers are small (in percentage) but we exist and we are who we are. People would be shocked that they have crossed paths with us never knowing it - we are best friends, husbands, doctors, lawyers, and Indian chiefs. We may be your Deacon, Minister, or Priest. We are heroes and hard workers we are just normal people. Politically, financially, and in work we span the spectrum. Our Personalities are the same as everyone else's, again we span the spectrum. We range from being extremely rough and masculine to extremely feminine, we can be aggressive and competitive or passive. Leaders or followers. Keep in mind these feelings and presentations just shift inside of us according to how we happen to be feeling at any particular moment it is just part of being who we are. Basically we are you only you are not persecuted for being yourself while we are. It is a fact that Women went through this, they gained the right to smoke, to wear men's clothing, to vote, to work in men's professions to the limits of their abilities to do so safely and today society accepts and defends a woman's right to be perfectly free and independent to live and be as they please, no limits are placed on them, only their strength limits them. So, we have to do what women did and society is beginning to change, Trans sexuality (those who from early childhood are indeed born with a brain that does not match the body they were born with), and cross dressing (those who are born with a dual or full spectrum of sexuality that shifts along the full spectrum from feminine to masculine with no desire to change their sex yet are most definitely heterosexual - though transvestites as a group do include those who are bi or gay but only to the same percentage that presents in society in general) is known about. People are learning and some are even beginning to understand and to accept us. Some are even fighting for us, God bless them, that we have a right to exist. Think about that - having to fight for the right to exist, to live freely and openly, and to hold a job and pursue a career, build a life, have a family and dreams and desires and goals! Education is the key. Many are beginning to learn to their surprise that we are largely heterosexual. Though we are not frequently encountered many are learning that they have nothing to fear from us because we are not a threat except to the rules of society. We simply have to push society to loosen up and to get over it. I believe in the not too distant future it will alright to see men walking freely expressing their femininity when they desire, beautifully adorned and dressed and working side by side with women in appropriate "woman's" professions and involved in "feminine" activities if they choose to do so. We will also be allowed to be approached by women for dating and to ask for our hand in marriage so that we can start a family and have a full lifelong relationship together until death do we part. We are really no different in this respect than most men. We are merely men who enjoy a full spectrum of sexuality we are truly whole beings. We can be rough and tough in the morning and soft and feminine in the afternoon and there is nothing wrong with that and if we have a woman who loves us we will be in "heaven" until we die and go to heaven. God cares only about what is in our heart, and what is in our heart but love, honor, and in that respect we are not different than any other man or woman on this earth. I think that's a good thought for the day. Anne (George). Hum...Anne George in the mid 19th century was one of us! Because an equally small percentage of women are just like us. Think about that.