Soul Mates
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I don't believe there is any such thing. A romantic thought but that doesn't make it real. People pick up on silly little sayings like this. My ex sister-in-law told my niece (her daughter) - "I'm still in love with your Dad you know" and about 2 months later, she put her wedding announcement in the paper :lol: and she was not re-wedding my brother. Apparently, she found her "soul mate". She left my bro. and lived with her soul mate until he kicked her out a few years ago. She found another mate (never heard her say it was her soul mate) that she lived with for a few years until she grew bored and he found another soul mate I guess because he married someone else. Somehow or another my ex sis in law then got back together with her lover who became her soul mate and they are now married. I guess if you don't like living alone and will take whoever comes along, you may have found your soul mate. Since I have been married for over 40 yrs. and we never called ourselves "soul mates" I see no reason to change that now. Mates for life might be right.
I don't really understand what that phrase means, but I would imagine it means many different things.
If two people stay together all their lives, treat each other kindly, are considerate,
share everything, care for each other when sick, sleep together, look out for one
another always, love each other, then I guess ' that's it', yeah I do have that.
One can't have a soul mate every few years, just doesn't work that way, it must
be earned and nurtured.
If two people stay together all their lives, treat each other kindly, are considerate,
share everything, care for each other when sick, sleep together, look out for one
another always, love each other, then I guess ' that's it', yeah I do have that.
One can't have a soul mate every few years, just doesn't work that way, it must
be earned and nurtured.
I suppose it depends on how you define "soul-mate".
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Princeton U. Press says, "someone for whom you have a deep affinity ".
Sounds fine by me. I have a few friends and family I have deep affinities with.
Soulmate - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
soul mate - definition of soul mate by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.
Princeton U. Press says, "someone for whom you have a deep affinity ".
Sounds fine by me. I have a few friends and family I have deep affinities with.
Of course, anyone who doesn't think so simply hasn't ever had one. No law that says everyone has a soul mate is there?
I've had mine since I was 21. 27 years on we love each other even more. We understand each other on a much deeper level than anyone else we know. We get each other.
I've had mine since I was 21. 27 years on we love each other even more. We understand each other on a much deeper level than anyone else we know. We get each other.
Sure hope my better half is out there somewhere..lol..Not countin on it..There are people better matched than others...Although I believe soul mates are totally possible!... but Not very probable . I say ,As long as you are happy with someone who is happy with you...Be happy!...No one is perfect. Fairy tales are make belief...When at first you don't succeed ...lower your standards..lol...
I think people can have deep connections to others, that are not romantic in nature. I think you can have several soul mates - people you don't have to see often, but one phone call or get together, every so often, makes a big difference in your life.
My husband and I have been together since I was 14... head over heels in love AND lust with one another. We're at the 10 1/2 years married mark, and I can't see that ever changing. We're best friends. Best lovers. If there is such a thing as a soul mate, he is mine.
But... I think part of what makes us such a good match is that we don't spend our time mooning over such romantic notions as 'soul mates'. To me, it implies that marital harmony will just magically happen by some fated blip of the universe. And that's just downright misleading. Our love, our lust, our divine moments of universal bliss, come to us because we deserve them, we work for them. We don't take for granted that they should just magically happen.
But... I think part of what makes us such a good match is that we don't spend our time mooning over such romantic notions as 'soul mates'. To me, it implies that marital harmony will just magically happen by some fated blip of the universe. And that's just downright misleading. Our love, our lust, our divine moments of universal bliss, come to us because we deserve them, we work for them. We don't take for granted that they should just magically happen.
Wow, you're good. Nobody could have put it better. No wonder there's an "Ask karrie" advice column here. :smile:
One of my nieces just suffered a marital breakdown after 10 years, with her husband reportedly telling her they "don't have the deep, deep connection they should have by now." None of us know what the hell he means by that, and I doubt he does either, but it sounds suspiciously to me like some shallow fool mooning over romantic notions like soul mates, without understanding that it's not going to just fall into his lap.
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I second that Dexter....kudos to Karrie for saying it right.....
And I'm 38 years with the same lady, ever since we were 16 years old.
I had to laugh when I saw Tyr answer of number 4..
Honesty I don't believe in them as such.
A good "mate" as such is one that like you is willling to work hard to make the relationship and every part of you life work. Whether it be for 5, 10, 30 or 50 years..
My Mom and Dad were married 50 years and were always arguying.. A year or so before my Mom passed away she was asked why they lasted 50 years. She said because they argued.
I am not sure I want to spend 50 years arguying like my Mom did but bless her soul
In any case keep the stories coming, it is quite interesting to hear..
I DON"T want romance in my life...
I have found my soul mate though.
My best friend. One hundred percent trustworthy, one hundred percent loyal. Incredibly fun to be around, and I never get tired of his company.
I have found my soul mate though.
My best friend. One hundred percent trustworthy, one hundred percent loyal. Incredibly fun to be around, and I never get tired of his company.
LOL!!! OMG! I was reading my last post here, and I can't believe how well I described a dog.... Oh my that's funny. My best friend is a human. :lol::lol::lol::lol: I don't own a dog because I live in an apartment.
:lol::lol::lol::lol: Sorry to mislead!